my bf of 2.5 yrs slapped me - can we survive?

Question

So we got into a verbal fight first, throwing names at each other. I got aggravated and slapped him on the face.

He froze and was shocked and said if u do it again i will punch u in the face. So i DID. Then he slapped me on the face back.

Is our relationship doomed? Will it lead to more physical abuse?

I am 23 btw- this is ridiculous.

Answer 1

You both learned a valuable lesson about letting your tempers get the best of you and how dangerous it is to resort to verbal and physical abuse. If you truly want to survive and thrive despite this, discuss it when you are both calm, about how you'll deal with your anger in the future. There are ways of fighting fair, and fighting maturely--learn about them. Some examples are: no cursing, screaming, name calling, or attacking each other. Discuss the issue, come up with a solution you can both live with, and once it's resolved, don't bring it up again. Also, make sure one of you has the sense to walk away before things gets out of hand again. You may also want to consider getting psychological help.

Answer 2

He warned ya. LOL
Actually this is no laughing matter. I will tell you from experience that physical violence of any kind in a relationship only gets worse.
Now you know he doesn't enjoy getting slapped. Nor do you.
I am going to warn you of this. Since he did slap you back, you now know he is capable of whipping your butt if he so chooses. This man is dangerous. As a real man would have walked away. And not returned until he was calmed down.
I want to empress upon you this. It is against the law to slap any one. This includes your boyfriend and visa-versa. Should he have decided to call the cops instead of slapping you back you would have been arrested. The cops take this kind of fighting seriously.
The reason they do is because physical violence at some time in all relationships leads to hospitalization. Some times death.
Never hit the person you love or care about!

Answer 3

Yes it is rediculous, but also instigated by you. You can't hit a man and expect him to keep his composure, especially if he warns you not to do it again. The fact that you did shows you asked for it in the first place, out of spite no doubt. So to answer your question, yes your relationship is doomed because either he is a good man, who can loose his temper when provoked, and decide to leave the situation to avoid it or he will end up throwing you through a plate glass window. Either way, if you are to split up or stay together you should seek some sort of anger management counseling. I say you because from the description of the situation it is you with the problem. One piece of advice, everyone has their limit, you should take care in learning what those limits are without crossing them, less you find yourself in a position you don't want to be in. Anger management works, but only if you can be mature enough to recognize that you have a problem.

Answer 4

First of all, you shouldn't have been dumb enough to
slap him. You are lucky he didn't beat your *** down.
Your relationship is doomed. Once it gets physical all
respect is gone. You guys might as well break up.
By the way verbal fights which include name calling
are also abuse toward each other. Abusive relationships
only get worse and even end up in tragedies.

Answer 5

That kind of depends on your beliefs. It could have just been a normal reaction, and he didn't punch you, like he said he would! Guys don't want girls to get physical with them that way either, it's degrading. But, if you were raised to believe that a man should never hit a woman, then you need to think about what may be ahead in the relationship.

Answer 6

Sounds like you need some anger managment courses if you are the one slapping first. As far as your relationship being doomed...you need to figure that one out yourself. No one can help you but you.

Answer 7

You two need to walk away from each other now. Who told you both that it's okay to hit one another? Men should never hit women, but you really pushed his buttons, nonetheless. Shame on both of you. I would advise both of you to attend anger management classes before you enter into another relationship.

Answer 8

It wouldn't have even been a problem of Can We Survive? if you hadn't slapped him in the first place. I don't think he would have slapped you if you didn't provoke him to do it. I think you both need counseling, mostly you.

Answer 9

there is no excuse for violence in any relationship he should have had the sense to walk out when you hit him and you should have never slapped him either. your relationship is doomed ,how can you even think about having a future when its shrouded in violence

Answer 10

u slapped him first, then he warned you not to do it again then you did, if he wanted to he could have had you charged with assault. u abused him he didn't abuse you. if a woman wants to hit a man like she is a man then she better be prepared to get treated like a man. if your BF was your brother what would you tell him to do? i would tell my bro to dump the crazy b****. if u abuse your Bf expect to get abused back and dont whine when it happens and go running and telling everyone he is a woman beater!! wise up!!!