Ok, I have been with my boyfriend now for two months and it is going very well. Over the last week, he has been talking about a get together a bunch of his mates are having at the end of April. He is 30 and everyone has spread and are now doing different things, so it would be good for them all to meet up again. He has invited me along as well. This is a big deal as I will be meeting his close friends for the first time. Now here is the dilema. A friend of my sister's has just sent out invitations for the evening reception of her wedding at the end of April...on the same day as this event. She is a close friend of my sister's and I'm very touched that she has invited our family along to the event. A while ago, I said that I would go. I don't really speak to her that often, but would like to go...as well as the other function! lol I don't want to make my boyfriend drop his mates for this either. Should we just go to our separate functions for the day or should I go with him?
2007-03-24 02:47:41 · 23 answers · asked by Cat burgler 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We both live in Fife and this function, along with many of his close mates is in Glasgow - over an hour away by car, so seeing and meeting them all again soon is not going to happen.
2007-03-24 02:48:44 · update #1
Sorry, I should have made this clear. I'm not really mates with my sister's friend, but I'm touched that she has asked us to go to her wedding. My boyfriend's function is in Glasgow - he hardly gets to see his mates anyway, so me seeing them again anytime soon is slim to none! lol Also, the wives, fiancees and girlfriends of his mates will be there too. We've spoken about possible awkwardness etc etc and he's totally fine with it - there's even a place for us to stay as well lol.
2007-03-24 03:02:16 · update #2
I can't go to both functions on the same night! They're too far apart :-(
2007-03-24 03:06:32 · update #3
I would say that you both must be together as previously arranged & you should talk to him about the wedding/ his mates & then decide.
From my selfish point of view I would go to Glasgow to see his mates because he will not know anyone at your sisters friends wedding & the girl is not really a friend of yours.
You & your boyfriend could just get your sisters friend a prezzy from her list & send it along with your sister But tell her thankyou for the invite but you have a previous engagement.
You will have a fantastic night in the hotel after your night out with his friends
2007-03-24 03:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The path of true happiness never runs smooth.Having said that if,he`s comfortable with you going to the wedding reception then go,on the other hand, If you don`t know her too well, a card & small present is acceptable for an apology & then your evening out with his friends can also go ahead without feeling guilty in any shape or form.
2007-03-24 06:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go to your sister's friend's function because like you said, you don't see them often! Your boyfriend might even enjoy being alone with his friends! He won't have to worry about his friend's and you not getting along, he will be more relaxed that his friends can't tell you embarassing stories about him and he may even relax a bit more knowing he can be one of the lads! I'm sure your boyfriend will understand if you decline his invitation although if you blew off the other function for your boyfriend it may look like you and him are too attatched! Go to the evening reception I'd say...
2007-03-24 02:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you going to the wedding and then slip out and go meet your boyfriend and his mates. That way you get to do both and be there for your friend and your boyfriend. You don't have to stay for the reception, just sign the guestbook and she'll know you were at the wedding. I definitely think you should do both. Have fun!
2007-03-24 02:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case I think you should go your separate ways and attend the functions. It is a credit to you that you wish to attend the reception and I am sure your boyfriend and his friends would feel the same if they were in the same position.
You should put it to him gently and ask to go to the next meeting up they have, from what you say I don't think it would be best for him to go with you.
I am sure he would have a good time with his friends (despite your unfortunate absence) given their time apart from each other and have no negative feelings about it.
I am sure it will work out alright for you, you have a good head on your shoulders.
2007-03-24 02:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by celene s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright you're gonna have to pull a little ya know movie switcharoo. You go to the party before the reception, then go to the reception and then go back to the party, or get together. That way you can make apearences at both and not dissapoint anyone. this might be a difficult task but c'mon who doesn't wanna act like they're in a movie. And it will deffinitly be a night to remember
2007-03-24 03:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should just go to your separate functions and call it a day. You can meet his friends some other time at some other event.
2007-03-24 02:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your boyfriend. Meet the girl up before her day, and pass her a present, and let her know that you;re unable to attend her function and share the joy of her special day
2007-03-24 02:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by Ashlyn Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go with your boyfriend as if this is turning into a budding relationship it will be nice to meet his friends as you may not get the opportunity again for a long while, its your sisters friend and at the end of the day she will understand if you do not go as you are in a relationship that you think may go somewhere. at the end of the day you need to decide what will make YOU happy not everyone else....if that means going to your boyfriends do so be it ....if it means you both go seperately ...your decision hun....
2007-03-24 02:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by sadie 69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard one there. I think if you are pretty serious about this guy then meeting his friends would be a good thing. You will learn a lot about Him by meeting his friends. Also a wedding is a once in a lifetime thing. So talk with your man Communication is everyting in a relationship!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-24 03:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by Aaron 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋