do you think spanking is good?

Question

im 11 and when i was10 i always youst tobe naughtey when we were at the mall or in a food court and one day i was really sassy to my mu and i told her to shut up and was bossing her around she hadnver spanked me before and she said maddie come here and i was all like no shut up and all this. Then she grabbed my arm and said "i said come here now" and then she pulled down my pants and i stupidly started screaming so every one looked at me and then she pulled down my underwear and spanked my butt3 times SO hard it really hurt i was crying and then she told me to sit down and she didnt let me pull up my underwear untill we were ready to go. But the even more embarising thing was she took my skirt away and made me walk round the mallin just my underwear. since then if i mis-behavie i get a spank and if im in public she takes away my skirt or pants.
And now she buys these pants with no zippers on so she can pull them down straight away. and befor she has spanked me bear on a park bench.

yes i was embarresed but i no my mom loves me and to be honest she has taught me a lesson and i wouldnt do what i did in that cafe again and just to let you no i was wourse then it sounded my mom certainly does not abuse me though and most the time now if i need a good spank in public she takes me in to the bathrooms not into the cubical thing but in to the area with the sinks
i dont feel she abuses me in any way and i can be very bad behaived

its not a wind up and its not child abuse and im happy with the way i am disaplined

and if you belive in spanking or got spanked you wouldno it hurt but she has only ever done this 2 times the other times i get spanked in public are in the bathroom or she takes me back to the car or other wise it is just through my clothing and she never hits me any were else just on he butt

Answer 1

yes and i fell that the way you were embarresed proberly taught you a lot of lessons
i dont see how some people say this is child abuse as you wer not punched pushed aroundor anything. And by the sounds of things you got exactley what you deserved i also dont feel you are to old either and i spank my kids in public and before have pulled down there pants in public to.
To be honest would you ever want to walk around in your pants again????

but then people saying making you walk in your pants is child abuse it sounds like you live in america im sure you have walk around in a swim suit befor.

all my kids skirts ect are elasticated so they can be pulled down easy. can i ask what exactly did you do.
last time my 5 yrold got spanked in public was yesterday when i picked her up from schooland i caught her kicking her teacher and when her teacher got down to her leavel to talk toher about it she spat inher face so i went up to her and said how dare you do that and she said sorry and i said now you are getting a spank on the butt and she said i thought i would and i was just going to lift up her skirt and spank her and she said wai i have been very bad pulled down her skirt tights and knickers and i said yes you have i picked her up carryed her in to the class were there was alot of people but not as many asthere was out side sat on a chair and put her over my knee gave her 2 swats pulled up her clothes and took her home yes she was upset butshe new she deserved it good onyour mum

Answer 2

You told your mom to "shut up". You deserved the spanking. Maybe not all the "taking your skirt away and making you walk around the mall in your underwear". I wouldn't do that to my child. However, your mom probably should have waited until she got you home to spank you, because people like "Squiddy" will freak out and call cps. Sadly, so many people out there think they have the right to butt into other parents' business and tell them how to raise their kids and not just deal with their own.

Answer 3

I wouldn't smack my son, even if he was playing up so much i couldnt bear it. I was smacked as a child and during my early years, i feared my father because he also had a temper. We have a great relationship now and he deeply regrets what he did as we didn't talk for 12 years.
Instead of being physical for discipline, people should be delving into a psychological approach, like rewarding good behaviour and making children aware of what they are doing wrong by talking it through with them. Good tip: watch The House of Tiny Tearaways!!! I will know what to do when my son gets to that awkward age!

Answer 4

Definetly doesn't sound loving. There are so many ways to disipline without being abusive. Not only is it abusive it is public humilation as well. I wouldn't tell her that you put this question out here or tell her the responses.... I will assure you it will not be a good outcome.

I am sorry you have this happening.... I understand believe me "been there". But I will tell you to remember the way you feel right now and when you raise your own children, be loving with boundaries.... you can disipline your children without hitting or embarrassment.

Answer 5

Grll, my mom abuses me.
But you said you dont think she abuses you!
Well I am 11 turning 12 in June.
I think your mom is mean!
My mom abuses me but she would never pull my pants down in a mall and pull down my underwear.
THAT IS WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She can just spank you, and she didnt have to do the extra stuff.
Lord, what is her problem?
It may sound like I'm talking mean about your mom but that is just wrong and messed up!
she has NO right to do that to you in public.
absolutely NO RIGHT!
You need to just don't do wrong so she don't do this to you.
Don't call Child Abuse because I did on my mom and she is still allways mean for no reason.
Hope I helped
(:

Answer 6

Ok, I belive that a good spanking is good for a misbehaving child but only if it is out of love for the child to act better and see to thier success in life!

This, was child abuse! It is called emotional abuse. If you don't belive me, talk to a child soical worker. They can send you somewhere where they won't abuse you like that again.

I hope you get the help you need!

Answer 7

I think spanking is good, actually,k IF the child is doing something that endangers them, like running out into the street, for example. BUT, sometimes when a child is your age, your behavior endangers your future. So your mother may be trying to get you to understand that life itself will not accept your behavior when you get older.

Answer 8

I don't believe in causing a child physical pain to get them to listen to you. I think spanking anytime is wrong and is abuse any way you look at it. Parents seem to do it out of frustration,anger and just plain laziness. If I would of seen someone in the mall doing this to a child I would of called the police! I really hope that this is a joke and not real

Answer 9

This sounds like unbelievable crap or cruelity.
Know one would draw this kind of obvious attention in public and get away with it to ever do it again. Every law enforcer including physiological evaluator would be all over the case!
Sounds like there are emotions gone wild to me...
get councling at your school !
Good luck.

Answer 10

I would say in normal circumstances spanking is healthy when the child is below 8 years old as a form of discipline, but after that, especially age 11 - i think you might want to contact the authorities, since the severity of how you descirbe the punishment is frankly shocking and indecent.