ok, I like this guy at my school and. I wan t him so so bad. i like him a lot. abut the only problem is that he has said no to me 2 times. but the only reason he said no twice is because all my friends kept asking him over and over again and it got him very mad so he said no. and the same reason for the second time. I can't get to know him because i am afraid to talk to him, and i am not trying to sound desperate. Please give me good advice. please.
2007-03-24 02:36:01 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, to ask someone out, you need to do this on your own. by having your friends do the dirty deed for you, it's just not right. if i were the guy, i would reject the offer too. baby girl, you have to sum up all your courage and do it yourself, alone. make sure that no one is around, including your friends. if you willing to try it again. you have to chance it. and take the bad pill well, if you get one.
2007-03-24 02:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go out with you either if I'd never talked to you and your friends just kept BUGGING me to go out with you. I won't date a girl without even knowing who she is. Not to mention the fact that you don't know him either. He could be a jackass. Or he could be an overly clingy desperate fool. Or he could have a girlfriend. My advice would be to get to know him first and make him get to know you. Seek him out sometime and get into a conversation with him, or at least say hi and get him to know you're alive. Any guy worth chasing will not respond negatively to a nice girl saying "hi" or starting small talk. Maybe after that, then you can decide if you still want to pursue something further with him. But the first step is getting to know who he is beyond his good looks, what sport he plays, what car he drives... whatever is making you like him right now! Good luck. Hope this helps!
2007-03-24 09:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jay M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you shouldnt have let your friends do the talking for you. you need to tell this guy that it wasnt your fault for what happened but since your afraid to talk to him, you can only do 1 of 3 things. 1 Talk to him. 2 Write him a note, explaining to him that it wasnt your fault for what happened. 3 Get over him and move on cause there's no need to get your feelings hurt for no reason at all. i hope this helps you out but remember the only thing you have to be afraid of is yourself dont worry yourself to death over it cause it's not worth it in the long run but if i were you i would confront him.
2007-03-24 09:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Andy P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is to be afraid of? He's a person, not a rabid tiger or something. Just walk up to him, apologize for the juvenille actions of having your friends ask him out for you a gazillion times and ask him out for a soda.
But honestly, chances are, if he was really interested, he'd either said yes when your friends asked him even if he was irritated by the immaturity of getting asked out by them FOR you or he'd have done it himself since he knows you like him. Sounds like he's probably irritated with you.
2007-03-24 09:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologise about ur friends silly actions,and wait for his feed back but dont tell him u like him..u already approached him and now its his turn to approach u.. .the reason for not telling him ur feelings ..is incase he is also not interested in u, u wont embarass yourself, so if he really likes u he will tell u dont matter what ur friends do...
otherwise u will look desperate. and i am sure u are not..keep it real girlfriend.
2007-03-24 09:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by girly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friends always do that to me too. unfortunately, it made him stop liking me because along with all of them asking him stuff, they also kept insulting him.
your situation doesn't sound exactly the same though. maybe you should give him a note or something explaining that you didn't want your friends to be so annoying.
2007-03-24 09:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by italiancat73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably embarassed. Tell your friends to butt out!! And then back off. Give him some room and time to cool off and then approach him again. If he says no again, blow him off! Find another guy.
2007-03-24 09:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by sgtlambsonswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably thinks your a lil wierd for having ur friends ask him out cuz you hardly know him but once you get to know him that wierdness will probably fade away. just be friends before taking the next step.
2007-03-24 09:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him know that you like him, YOURSELF, and then go on about your business. Do not continue to ask him out or to get your friends to talk to him... Good luck.
2007-03-24 09:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Cola55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont take the chance to get to know him then its probably not worth it but if ur willing to take that chance u must like him put aside all fears and go for it it will b worth getting embarrsed or afraind if u really like him.
2007-03-24 09:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by roar!!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋