Is this the right time to lose my virginity?

Question

I met this girl 6 years ago when I was a freshman in high school who I always admired her. She was one of the prettiest girls that I ever met, smart, mature and nice. From last year we became good friends and from 4 months ago we became lovers when I expressed my love for her and she accepted it. She is pressuring me a little to sleep with her. In my mind I want to do it because I feel there is not way bother else that I would do with it at the moment but her because she was my first crush and I like her. However, in my heart I really feel I need to wait more until I do it. What should I do?

Answer 1

Nobody (either gender) should pressure you into
sex. You don't want to disappoint her, but the chances
are pretty good that you will not end up with this girl
in the long run.

I don't know what your hesitation is - but it doesn't
matter. This is something that you have to live with in
the long run. There will be other girls if she is
immature enough to run.

Figure out what your heart is saying, and why it
is saying it.

Answer 2

Losing your virginity, whether you're male or female, should be something you are ready for and not out of pressure. It's a memorable moment in your life, that you can never get back. You both seem like you have a decent relationship and have known each other for quite some time. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Let her know that you'd like to wait a little longer before you make love and explain to her why. If she is mature, she'll respect your feelings. Evidently, you really care about her and she will definitely appreciate that. When the right time comes, believe me...the feeling will be mutual.

Answer 3

Geez, some of the guys answers on here really suck, but you know what? Most of them are not very caring about feelings either, so it would seem. For them to say go ahead and just do it, is very hardhearted and I wish them luck finding girls that will actually stay with them. From the sound of it, they would sleep with anything that walks on two legs and has a chest. Hun, your virginity is a special thing, you share that gift with someone that is special to you and that shares the same feelings. Her pressuring you should send up a flag that something is wrong in the picture. When you love someone, you don't pressure them to do something they don't feel ready for. True love waits until the end of time if it has to, don't let her force you into something you may not be ready for. Think about this, is she everything you want in a girl? Could you see spending the rest of your life with her, if she should get pregnant? What do you know about her past? Is she still a virgin herself? What does your being a virgin mean to her? Here's a very good question to think on, it was brought up when I was in high school. Would you die for her? Now with that question in mind, what if she had a deadly STD such as AIDS? Would you be willing to take the risk to catch that, just because she pressured you? Now, I'm not saying she does, because I don't know her, my point is to get to know each other on a personal level, before making a step like that. Find out about her past, and make sure you are comfortable with each other. You are ready when you BOTH feel ready, don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Strictly in my opinion, 4 months isn't enough time to know anyone on a personal level. Get to know her and enjoy the time you spend together, then in more time, you ask yourself that question again. You should know when you are ready deary. I applaud you in being a virgin as long as you have, I think it is very honorable, and I wish more guys would wait instead of just "doing it". I hope you find what you are looking for within yourself to be strong and handle your decision in a wise and mature manner. Let your head do the thinking, not the member between your legs.

Answer 4

I believe that the right time to lose your virginity is when you yourself are ready...You might be 15, 25, or married before you do, but when the time is right, you will know...The fact that she is pressuring you raises flags - you should never let anyone, no matter who they are, pressure you for sex. Also, things changes over time - how you feel now, you probably won't feel months from now, and you don't want to get yourself in too deep. You also mentioned that you feel you should wait a little bit more...My advice: follow your gut instinct (it's there for a reason) and wait...if you 2 are truly meant to be together, and if she is "worth it"...she will respect your wishes and wait for you to be ready.

Answer 5

You should wait. Hey, the shoe is usually on the other foot and a girl winds up having sex before she's ready because some guy is pressuring her. But don't do it until you are positive you are ready for it. It will be a much better experience for you and whoever you share it with.

Answer 6

If you feel you need to wait, WAIT! If she loves you, she won't pressure you because she will want you to be happy! Just explain to her that you are not rejecting her; you feel extremely attracted to her and you love her. But because you love her you don't want to feel resentful toward her for rushing into sex before you're ready.

My boyfriend waited and NEVER pressured me. And it was the most loving, perfect moment in my life. I'm not saying it wasn't awkward and physically painful also but I never regretted it and his conscience was clear that I had given myself to him of my own free will, not because he was pressuring me. And I married him.

Listen to your gut and do what is right for you, no matter what anyone else thinks and you'll be just fine. :)

p.s. Thanks for being a real man, not one of those other ones that post on here!

Oh yeah, and I disagree with foreplay dude a few posts down from me. Don't get caught in that trap! Not every woman desires or needs a lot of foreplay. Make sure that when the time is right you listen to the cues she's giving you and not what you read in magazines. (No offense to foreplay dude!)

Answer 7

Funny question. The fact that something like this is being asked! It is really sad as well because it only shows that sex continues to be abused, its power is misplaced, its true purpose is forgotten, and people asking something like this or thinking about it only means that some people do not value things like these. Do what is right. We know you know. We should know.

Answer 8

Don't ever do anything that doesn't feel right. If you have sex, make sure it is protected. Usually the guy is the one who pressures for sex. When a girl does, getting married because she got pregnant may be in her mind. Watch out!!

Answer 9

these answers are funny. I am going to have to say the answer is no. Sex outside of marriage is a sin. One of the answers stated that this girl may just want to get pregnant. Hey I had a friend that the only thing she wanted was kids & not the father in the picture. What a looser she turned out to be. Best bet is no sex until you are married. Besides protection is not 100% safe, the only safe protection is abstinance.

Answer 10

You've been with the girl for six years and you're still a virgin?

I think you can trust her enough to "do the deed."

My recommendations:

- Take your time.
- Don't get your expectations up too high.
- It could be embarrasing or weird at first. (Think of the first time you tried to ride a bike, or hit a baseball.)
- Oh, foreplay. Women love lots and lots of foreplay.
- If she's into it, and you're into it, you're doing it right.
- Oh, and take your time. With sex, slow and steady wins the race.

Most importantly, if you're going to unload the troops, USE A CONDOM!!!

If I were you, I'd get it over with just to get it out of your system. I was a late bloomer, and realized I had hang-ups for no reason.

Once you slide your baserunner home, you're going to want to get up to bat again, and again, and again...

Be cautious, but have fun, dude.