Your all welcome to reply or help me out here, lol. Im going through a major life descison and its bothering me, ive lost sleep and my mind wont quite down. I am 24, currently living with my boyfriend "jake" of one year in a small pull trailor. I live in a small town, in the north, and have been here ALL my life. I currently guit my job because it drove me into depression, and I got rid of my brand new dodge truck, also had to file for bankruptcy because the lease payments on that truck were 800 a month, i made a bad mistake there. Anyways, i really want to move away. Somewheres down my the ocean or water of some sort. I just feel the need to spread my wings and fly..its not that i want to run from this town or anything, all my family is here and i do like it alright, but i also hate it and would like to experience more of life. The only problem is, i love ryan deeply and he loves me, he would be so heartbroken if i left, and he wouldnt come with me, i know this for a fact. So i have to make the decision of a lifetime here..i have so many questions and nobody seems to have any answers. Deep down my heart and soul are screaming at me to leave..but than again, theres a little voice telling me to stay, become a housewife, and try to be happy. I dont want to lose ryan but thats what would happen if i left, he wouldnt "wait" for me by any means. I am just very , very lost....and i envy people who can mae these choices on there own..its hard..but hopefully ill figure something out..ugh
2007-03-24 02:04:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also have $$ saved, and would sell all my crap before i left, so money is no issue
2007-03-24 02:08:02 · update #1
lol, sorry ryan is "jake"
2007-03-24 02:29:30 · update #2
leave start over you will like it in the long run
2007-03-24 02:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by mark s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know many think they have to stay where the family is. I have been on the move since quite young and seem to have to go to anoter place from time to time. When I do go I go alone and do not take any other with me.
Born in the center of the USA moved three times and made it to the east coast but that was not where I wanted so moved four more times and made it to the west coast and found there was another place I was looking for. then went to texas and that was bad and the next fifteen years were spent in the north west. Oregon and Washington. That is a real good place to be. Any way after a couple more moovs I finally ended up here in Thailand where it is summer all the time.
I do not regret any of it. I was always able to earn plenty of money to live well and have waht i wanted. There are so many ways to earn a lot of money in the good old USA.
I have done as I wanted to do and had a very good life.
I have taken many trips to other lands for a couple of months at a time and learned a lot about this world. Now that I am old I still feel the same and still plan trips to see other places.
2007-03-24 02:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am having the same problem. I'm also 24, my "jake" and I have been dating for 7 years. Am still living in the same small town I grew up in. I work in the very hospital I was born in...how pathetic is that. He and I talk about getting married and I know a life with him would be a happy one. But part of me still wants to move around a little and see the world...so lemme know if/when you figger out the answer.
2007-03-24 02:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by BarbwireNRoses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy "Ryan" really loves you then he will move with you, if he dosent want to move for whatever reason i might be a little cautious about that and the reason i say that is because my girlfriend and i where very much so in love and had been for 4 years and when the time came where i needed to move to the other side of the state she refused to move.....well as the story goes on she didn't want to move because she was cheating on me with a guy from the area....anyways my point is go with your heart and if its telling you to spread your wings then DO IT. You only live once and come on do you really honestly want to live your life in a trailer as a house wife? I know your feeling after i found out 4 years of my relationship was i lie i got up from living in Michigan my whole life and went to Florida and i hate the place but I'm very happy with myself
2007-03-24 02:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by hl2cjm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not willing to move or at least wait a little while for you then its not worth keeping anyway. you don't want to be some trailer park housewife. i know how you feel. i come from a small town and getting out of that place was the best thing that ever happened to me. just be realistic of the costs of living in other places and make sure that you have the money to set up there. being broke and lonely will just make you that much more depressed. there is more than one love of your life and you will find another if you decide to go. good luck.
2007-03-24 02:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a tough decision to make. You seem to be willing to sacrifice your happiness to stay with "ryan," and there are no guarantees....all relationships last.
If you know for a fact he wouldn't make the choice to go with you......how is that fair to you.
If your soul is screaming for you to leave, then I think your health, happiness and sanity depends on you spreading your wings. YES...there is a possiblity you may lose ryan if you leave....but you could lose him anyway.....if you stay.
It's a cliche' but you have to do what's good for you, find yourself, explore all your options before settling down.
You shouldn't have to "try" and be happy with a situation you don't want to be in, you have to WANT to be in it.
The real question is will you have the means to support yourself, will you be able to find a job, have transportation, find an apt or roomate. Will you be willing to struggle for bit. If you chose to spread your wings, be prepared that you may have hard times and be lonely and scared and question your choice......until you get settled and make new friends....this would be normal.
If you have the strength to "go"....you will find the strength to endure the challenges you will face. Don't think everyone makes tough decisons on their own, they probably get input from other people....you just don't know it.
Whatever decision you make.....is yours! Good or bad, right or wrong....you have to find the answer for you...because you will have to live with the consequences.
good luck
2007-03-24 02:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... I feel awful about your situation... but the heart is the most tempting of all things around you. I would say to move on but your heart would be devastated if you left. Just plan ahead before making any decision in your life... think ahead of your life for example "If I leave, I would learn how to be an individual and start from scratch... but if I do I would leave my baby in my hometown..." I just have to tell you one thing, life would have not go as planned if you didn't make a decision...
2007-03-24 02:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he "loved" you so much then he would wait for you while you went to find yourself. Sounds like that's what you are needing to do. If you aren't happy then go. Travel and explore and find a sense of peace. If he's not there when you come back then I'm sure you will find someone along the way who understands what you are doing and why. You wouldn't be a good wife to him as long as you feel this way.
2007-03-24 02:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO....do what makes you happy ..you can always come back if you want to...he will be there and if you get back with him great if not great too...your family , if they really love you will back up....and yyou may find a man who GOD wants you to be with somewhere else........your job that you''ll love maybe out there somewhere...go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LIVE..take chances..you have nothing holding you here.........I went to ALaska with my clothes and $60 ..I got a job within the week.....stayed 2 yrs got too cold and came home....been home and always is not want to be ...here in the back of my mind....so when my youngest son is 18 yrs old I am going to go live by the ocean somewhere...so I think people like us will keep on moving till they find the place they r meant to stay at...go and be happy....
2007-03-24 02:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom will be all right without you. High blood pressure medications are very effective. Apply for jobs in the town or city of your choice online, once you get one, you can go see about apts. Don't stay where you are miserable. Life's too short.
2016-03-29 02:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jake is the guy you live with ...Who is Ryan?? You need a mini vacation ....If you cannot fly take a Greyhound bus ...Now you have Not experienced life until you have taken a trip by Greyhound ..You just need to get away .Good luck
2007-03-24 02:11:30 · answer #11 · answered by southernn_sky_2020 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋