What chores do you give a 6 year old, two 11 year olds, and a stubborn 14 year old? I plan to enforce chores?

Question

and just wanted to know what most parents are doing! thanks so much

Answer 1

Start with having all the kids help prepare meals. Discussing what to eat, preparation, etc..
All four are capable of putting out trash. Yes all four. Actuaaly they are all capable of all chores.
I have three kids, similar to your ages. 6yo girl, 12yo and 15yo boys. Getting them to clean at any age is tough. I get more results in not telling them "do it now" but taking adeep breath and asking "can you please help me clean this" Show that you are willing to work alongside them and when your done just say "Thank you I don't think I would of finished so soon" Eventually they may start doing on their own and when they do small steps comment "thank you, you did a wonderful job" even when they didn't!
My kids still revert back to lazy but I just go back to step one. Even we do iit sometime so don't be harsh , positive reinforcement and praise gets the work done.
GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

With 5 kids, we would create a chore box, slips of paper that would give a specific task. Since they are different ages, some things will be difficult for the youngest at the moment, but most things they can all do. Start simple, focus on the things that are immediate in their lives like - bed, clothes they wear, bathing (towels), plates, cups, and utensils they use to eat with.
Show them above all, do it with them, then watch them do it. Keep the encouragement level high, they are learning and need the re-enforcement that they are doing well. For the oldest, these are basic life skills. Open a checking account with him/her, and with each week completed, give him a value for work done, so he can deposit into account, thus learning that job well done gets more than a rotten job - early job preparedness training as well.
Main thing - they cannot read your mind or do things the way you do them, so be patient and as long as it gets done - be happy! Also, as time goes by, they will begin to modify and improve but suggestions from you like - how can you do this better, or to do it so you don't have to go back and do it again-type of suggestions.
Hope this helps you get some ideas.

Answer 3

All chores have to be in addition to them looking after their own bedrooms!
For a six year old - folding towels, setting the table, clearing up after a meal, sorting laundry, helping sort recyclables, putting away groceries, helping shop for groceries...
The other three can practically do anything - doing laundry, the garbage, cleaning windows, dusting, vacuuming, dishes, loading and unloading dishwasher, shoveling, sweeping and raking outside...
It's best to NOT tie chores to an allowance. Kids should get money just because they are kids and need walking around money. Chores are done because they are part of the family, and everyone must contribute.

Answer 4

what ever the chores remember a few things
6 yr old can only do so much
it may not be perfect so don't pounce on them if it is not up to mommy standards


the second is if this is the fist time they are doing chores hold your ground i always tell my son look i feed you shoes,clothes
sports equipment so you can help out around here since we work and the other thing is i have always instilled the same thing my nana instilled in me
this is my house just like yours it is an extension of US
you don't wear dirty ratty clothing so the yard does not have to look like a pig sty first impressions are key even with your house

6yr olds can make beds help fold clothing separate darks from lights this is the age if they can reach to show them how to use washer dryer they can put clothes in rooms IE mom/dads clothes in their room sis clothes in her room
they can take out trash dishes just about everything we can do
vacuum and sweeping will be tuff if they are just starting remember they still are learning how to use their own muscles and eye hand coordination

all the other kids can do exactly what we do as good as we do again stand your ground with them if the dishes are yucky do it again
that is not sweeping that is pushing the dirt around
they are all at ages where it is going to suck for them so be strong

just make a list of the chores you honestly dislike yourself or things you see around that you just don't have time to get too like the dusting i keep saying oh tomorrow i will do that but it seems i never get to it so i just give Dustin the duster and have at it
also make sure they are not chores you have a very certain way of doing
if you like your floors washed on hands and knees and a toothbrush around the edges DON'T let them do it it just is not going to be up to mommy standards and there is no sense doing it again and finally make them kind of even
if someone has to go out and shovel and you got a huge fall you know they are working very hard split up the other jobs to make them all kind of even if person A has shoveling and 3 other jobs and the shoveling is going to take 2 hrs give the other jobs to other ppl

Answer 5

Growing up i was given chores and ithink now it was a good idea! My brother and i used to have to do the dishes!
So what i would recommend is the 14yr old to wash the dishes whilst the 2 11yr olds wipe up and the six yr old to put away! Also the usual clean ur room and make ur bed! Or get them to help folding clothes up and things like that

Answer 6

The best thing to start setting up shores is when they are around 3 or 4 so they can know how things work around the house, I have a 2 and a 6 yr old, my bigb girl since she was 3 she started, placing up her dirty clothes is a basket and so as her toys, also pick in up their food plates and glasses after each meal and so as their table cloth. my 2 yr old learned watching her sis doing it know she fix her bed as much as she can and trys to have her room clean and she is learning hoe to wash dishes actually she asked me to teach her... so make a list on what tehy can do and assign shores, you can make it fun with a fun bord with all their shores ....good luck!!!

Answer 7

DD6 dries up the dishes and wipes down the glass-table (she does it better than me, LOL). She's also expected to keep her room neat. But sometimes she even wants to do more, like vaccuming, 'she also likes to help me folding up laundry and she can't wait to learn cooking.

No child on this world would ever admit so, but they like doing chores...;-) My DD is the envy of a few girls in her class, who don't do chores at home. It makes her feeling more grown up. (The "It makes you more grown up"-card is a good one to play, when you want your kid to do chores, anyway...;-))