My husband and I have been married for 1 year and are facing some challenges. Due to his selfcenteredness, I become jealous. He is a people watcher and it makes me feel like I constantly have to watch my back. Everytime there is what I consider to be a pretty woman, I feel like I have to put my gaurd up and say something smart to him. How do we get over this? It is getting old fast and wearing on both of us. We both want our marriage to work and we both love each other very much. Is there anyone out there that has any suggestions?
2007-03-24 01:05:07 · 6 answers · asked by shyann_1963 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
see no evil , think no evil ... Take it easy Don be too processive . Jealous people not welcome .
2007-03-24 01:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by grottine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was insanely jealous when we were first married and i put a stop to it quickly.Jealously is such a wasted emotion and it gets you nowhere.It drove him nuts that i wasn't jealous ,he tried waving to people and always got mad that i'd never ask who it was and i told him that he should just forgive his ex and move on because it would be a problem in our marriage if he didn't let the past go.Try it sometimes by saying things like isn't that girl gorgeous on tv and try for a while to pretend that his looking at other women bothers you in the least and listen you have eyes...watch some guys.He most likely looks at these women because he wants to get a rise out of you.Don't give him what he wants and i guarranty it will stop.Good luck....And by the way we have been married 20 years with love and happiness still intact.
2007-03-24 09:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Dodgegirl62 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you basically a jealous person?? Have you ever been jealous before this?
I have always thought that jealousy is a human trait. Some of have it and some of us do not. It is not something we can turn on and off. I have never been a jealous person so it is hard for me to understand. I try to accept what comes my way without being jealous. I have always considered jealousy like cancer. It can continue to eat at you--and make for a very unhealthy life.
I guess, just realize that your husband married "you". He seems to be happy with you. Accept him for who he is. Love him for who he is. Men are different so just try to accept this and move on. Be happy.
2007-03-24 08:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to an Orthopedic Surgeon and have a backbone installed. Then put on your sexiest clothes and tell him you are going grocery shopping. You take the offensive and make him jealous or else you lose.
2007-03-24 09:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound self-conscious , I suggest realizing he married you for a reason.
2007-03-24 08:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should feel more confident about yourself. how about giving yourself a makeover. that might help to increase your confidence. and stop thinking too much.
2007-03-24 08:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by twenty_four 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋