i had a boyfriend,were now 9 months but still i feel that his only using me,but i cant leave him,i love him so much,what should i do?please help me,,
2007-03-24 00:21:26 · 17 answers · asked by goercianne s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How is he using you? Talk to your friends, what do they think? They are a lot more fish in the sea. If hes using you, you can do better
2007-03-24 00:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by shano 2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean, "I can't leave him" ???? Of COURSE you can --- you may love him but if he is just using you then what is that worth ? You may love him "so much" but if all you are doing is loving someone who doesn't treat you well, then all you are doing is squandering your precious emotions on someone who doesn't deserve it. And if you are loving someone who doesn't love you, then all you are dong is pouring water on a desert with no one around to refill your pitcher.
Have more respect for yourself than that. Have enough faith in yourself that you will not allow yourself to be used. You are worthy of a relationship with someone who cares as much about you as you care about him. You are worthy of a relationship where you are not a doormat.
If you actually "love" him, and he is using you, then that is not love. You are not "in love with" him because HE isn't in it with you. That would mean that you are all alone and just don't know it yet.
Stand up for yourself and see what happens. Don't allow yourself to be treated with even a hint of disrespect and see what happens. Expect to be treated well, lovingly, --- expect him to be happy to see you and insist on being treated with love and kindness and consideration and see what happens. If he reacts badly; if he rejects the change in you; then you will have all the information you need and then you CAN - and should - leave him.
There are bigger fish in the sea, my dear. Bigger and better.
2007-03-24 07:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have not provided sufficient info. for what you think he is using you... From past 9 months you are with him and if you are feeling this now... Its just because your love towards has come down........ you are feeling insecured.. Its better if you provide sufficient info for what you are feeling so.. then you might get a good answer.. A solution that may change your life....
2007-03-24 07:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by sumanth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is he using you?
If sex, that would have ended unless no other woman would sleep with him.
Anything else like money or housing I would be suspicious. I'd kick a mooch to the curb in a heartbeat with no tears at all.
2007-03-24 07:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by guy o 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you think he is using you? if you have been together 9 months then i wouldnt think he is, unless you spoil him and give him anything he wants lol. But maybe you can try testing him or something? im not really sure why u think he might be using you so its hard to help you, im sorry
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2007-03-24 07:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... if you have a feeling that your bf is using you... try to gather info from all his friend. Try to find out if is really using you. if he does. its better to leave him, even though you love him. cause love has to be both sided not jus one. Have the courage to leave him,,,, Good luck
2007-03-24 07:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by Shank29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear,
u should know if any other girl in his life.u should inquire abt it.if he is going to marry u,so it is true love
coz i think the destiny of love is 'marriage' n if u think that he use u so leave him ,if u r in confusion n he dont loves as much u love him.
2007-03-24 10:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look ...i m a boy and i can say that if u think he is using u then u should be carefull ....but ...if u are not sure then plz dont ditch him if he really love u then he will be not handle such thing ......and i think u should be sure before taking ane step
2007-03-24 07:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Abhishek M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is not using you........its his lifestyle
this is his way to love you
dont bother
you cant find better lover than him....just keep this in your mind
love is like a weak thread...do not try to pull it in your side it may break
take care
2007-03-27 10:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by rajesh y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may not be using you..clarify your mind ...give some time..take his behaviour seriously..ask his friends..ALL THE BEST...i know some times you feel like this in relationship..even i felt...but dear you have to understand these guys..sometimes we misunderstand them...
2007-03-24 11:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Daffny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋