family or education?

Question

hi, im 22 and married, and have a 16 month old son who was born on c section. i want to go to university, have got the place but am still contemplating on whether to finish my family first. my mother in law is old and would like to see her grandchildren before she dies.however she does not live with me nor have i got any help to raise my child! im stuck on what to to do. any advise would be greatly appreciated. thanx!!

Answer 1

Whatever it takes, get an education! Whatever it takes. Don't let anything or anybody to ever hold you back from getting your education. Whatever it takes, go to university and get that degree. At the end, everyone (!) will be better off because you did. Your son will have a better life because you will have the degree.

Answer 2

What do you mean by finish your family first? Does this mean waiting until your child is school age and you would have more free time or does this include having more children? Going to school has nothing to do with your child seeing your mother in law. If you want to go to a university, you can put your child in a reputable daycare. It won't be easy,but it can be done. Or you could take classes when your husband is home to watch the baby. Most universities offer classes over the Internet now,and some offer night classes. Talk to your husband for his input. He should be helping you raise this child. You can always take the baby to visit your mother in law on weekends if she doesn't live far away.

Answer 3

Have more children when you and your husband are ready, not for the grandmother. If you continue to put off attending the university, you may never go. I think you should enroll and take a few classes to get started. You will still have plenty of time for your children as well. Do this for yourself, you will regret it if you don't.

Answer 4

Think of what kind of life you can give your child if you have an education..

Familys are NEVER finished. It is an on going thing..

Doesnt your husband help you raise yours and his child.?

Answer 5

If u r married let your husband change his life around and you get in that school and stay there until you are done...visit your mother in law or have her come live with you for a time...DON'T ever give up education for anything if you can help it.....

Answer 6

Life never goes according to plan, it just doesn't. So you can make a bunch of plans, but don't expect everything to just fall in place. Secondly, you should not be planning your babies around what your MIL wants. She's not the one raising them, feeding them, caring for them, YOU ARE. You will be much more capable of providing for your family if you finish your education....that's just my opinion.

Answer 7

Talk to your husband. If he is okay with you finishing school and if you are afford it, then Do it! If your husband makes good money and wants you to stay home with the child until they are in school, then wait. BUT you and your husband need to talk it over.

Answer 8

You could stay with your family longer.Your son needs a mother ad a father you could wait until he is in second grade or so.(don't do it when he has his first year or school)

Answer 9

Go for it!!! If you want to study then you must go dont wait until your child grow older, if you do that and have a better job you can give your child a better life too...But dont do that for your self do that for your baby...He must be your inspiration!!!!

Answer 10

maybe you should let your child grow up a bit and then go to uni cos then u can go when he is in school rather then letting him alone some of the time !