I need help. I'm a 16 year old girl who has never done anything to make my parents distrust me. But they still do! I'm hardly allowed to see my friends on weekends, I'm just supposed to study even if theres no work to be done. I have a recent secret boyfriend who i want to tell my parents about. But I'm scared that if I do they'll freak, disallow me from seeing him and completely ground me. What should I do??? I'm so confused...
2007-03-24 00:07:02 · 16 answers · asked by Gabi . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-03-24 00:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by kimmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one, I suspect that you do not live in India, in which case you may consider asking your school counselor for support and assistance. Perhaps even talk to your parents. It is OK to love your parents and respect your culture, but if you live within another culture, then your parents would need to consider this. Sorry my friend, you have a difficult job ahead of you, be patient and kind, but you need to have this sorted out, both for you and for all the young woman out there with 'Frighten' Parents, it is a big thing to change history. Good luck
2007-03-24 07:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell them about the bf because they will prevent you from seeing him even if that means grounding them. Perhaps you could engage in more extracirricular activities at school and a few study groups that meet on weekends so you could have more freedom. Otherwise, just wait until you go to college and make sure it is another state :-)
2007-03-24 07:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by Paul W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were that protective too when I was your age. I was angry at them during that time. But now that I'm in college... I am soooo thankful.
My advice: Introduce all of your friends to your parents. Let your parents get to know them and maybe even their parents. How do your parents feel about having guys as just friends? Maybe let them get aquainted with him like that first. Maybe even invite his parents over for dinner. It may seem dorky, but it goes a long way with parents to do things the old fashioned way.
I've had other friends who had parents like that too. We noticed that they loosened up more when they met our friends and their parents. But if your parents voice a concern about a certain person or their parents, try to be open minded about it. Sometimes parents have a good sixth sense for that stuff. Other times, they're just paranoid. But I like to think, better safe than sorry.
Never forget, they really are doing it because they love you and care about you.
2007-03-24 07:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your age is the most difficult age of your life, you may think that your parents if against you but, you should listen to them sometimes, because what their doing to you is the best for you today. As you get older you will get more freedom that what you ask for. But today is the time for your studies. When they see that you are responsible enough and can be trusted, maybe they will give you the freedom that you've wanted.
2007-03-24 07:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by carl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my baby girl, you may not understand the protection that your parents are trying to give you. you are just a little girl of 16 why are you rushing life, just cool down and study your books when the time comes you will see that your parent will no more disturb you because they will know that you are now matured to do what ever you want but in respect so that you will not bring dishonor to them. so my dear not be confused any longer for your time is coming. thanks
2007-03-24 07:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by peacebabygirl2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are being strict because they want the best for you. Be patient, you have plenty of time in life after you have successfully graduated.
2007-03-24 07:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They just want to keep you safe; however, I'm sure they understand that you're growing up and that you have to spread your wings and fly. Keep reminding them of how good a kid you've been by doing extra special things for them. Good luck love!
2007-03-24 07:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by ~Crystal~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take pictures of you and your boyfriend having sex in different positions, put them on the internet, and then show your parents.
2007-03-24 07:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just obey ypur parents and do not tell them about your boyfriend it will only make matters worse.
2007-03-24 07:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I just answered this question last week. See my "Best Answer" for the question "Help, I need a bf." It might help.
2007-03-24 07:50:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋