what age do most people first have sex?

Question

is it an advisable age?

Answer 1

Don't laugh. 21. I had lots of opportunities but it just didn't seem like the right time or the right person. I made a lot of guys very frustruated! I chose to wait until I found someone that I was really hot for instead of lukewarm about.

So, I'd say 21 is an advisable age for some people. I definitely don't think 13 or 14 would have been good for me (don't think it should be for anyone, but that's just my opinion)

Answer 2

There is no "advisable" age and I think it does people a disservice to put a specific number on it. Trouble is that, depending on one's age, the importance of sex and the implications of sex change. Many, many things in this world and in life have changed over the years and decades. The one thing that dos not seem to have changed is the fact that adults tell young people to wait. Nor has the fact that young people tell older people that they don't know what they are talking about and that "things are different" for the younger person's generation.

Do you ever think about the fact that the same young people who were, a decade ago, telling their parents that they didn't "understand" about sex are the same older people who are now telling younger people that they should wait ? Maybe there is something to be learned over a decade.

Trouble is that hormones are strong and fierce in youth - and so you FEEL like it is the thing to do - it might even make you feel like it is "love." Trouble is that it is just hormones. Or, you might be of the opinion that "it's just sex; it doesn't MEAN anything." Problem with all of that is that you would be wrong. There IS a difference between "sex" and "making love" and the latter is SO much better than the former. And if you "have sex" before you are able to both understand the consequences and deal with the mental aspects of it, you can find yourself in a hard position.

You cannot base a decision as to when it is the "right time" for you, yourself, to have sex on when "everyone else" is having sex. You cannot base the decision on what anyone around you says; you cannot base the decision on what your friends are saying or doing.... and you sure as hell cannot base a decision like this on pressure you may be getting from a guy. You can only decide to do this when you know yourself and know how you feel.

My own opinion, for what it is worth, sex for sex's sake is empty and worthless. Sex with someone who loves you and whom you love, is phenomenal - connecting on such a deep, intimate level is deeply satisfying. But learning what love really is usually comes AFTER you are being pressured to have sex or AFTER you, yourself, really want to have sex. Makes it tough and it means that you have to have self-control and have your eye on the prize when the prize is a bit father out in time.

You want an age ? Ok, well, generally, I'd wait until after I was 21. (I can hear it now - "ARE YOU KIDDING ???? ARE YOU INSANE???? NO ONE WAITS THAT LONG!")

I guess if I could encourage you to do one thing, it would be that you wait to have sex until you are sure that it is not because of any pressure --- no peer group pressure ("I'm the only virgin that I know!"), ---- no boyfriend ("If you loved me, you would sleep with me.") --- no nuthin'. Wait until you are absolutely sure that you will have NO regrets - that if the guy walks away the next day and you never see him again, you would not regret sleeping with him; that if everyone found out (if you woke up with a big sign around your neck that said "I had sex last night with XXX") you would not be ashamed to go to the mall wearing it.... wait until you know you are having sex for the right reasons.

And, one last bit of advice - practice safe sex. Even if you put yourself on the pill, make him use a condom. The pill may provide some protection against pregnancy; the condom will provide some protection against STDs and HIV.

Answer 3

Well, bearing in mind the 'legal' age is 16, it is difficult to answer. In fact it's almost like saying at what age do people die! I met my husband 48 years ago when I was at school and we first "made love" when I was 15. We went on to be married and knew right from the start that we were going to be together.
Together sex seems to be just another fun thing to do - perhaps I missed out on lots of fun, I'll never know. All I do know is that sex can be good with anybody you fancy but it certainly won't mean a relationship will follow, quite the opposite. What do you want, sex or love. If it's sex, choose your partner carefully, have safe sex and I really hope you don't lose your self respect.
I am obviously much older than you but I find the thought of loving and making love so much more rewarding than one night stands with any Tom, Dick or Harry.
If you are a very young girl, you may be very disappointed with the first time and then want to keep trying for perfection. If you are young, can you speak to your mother, grandmother or another person you trust, I think it might help.
If everybody is doing it, it doesn't mean you have to.
I'm sure the national surveys show that most people have sex well before 20 but many people are happy to keep their virginity until much later. Don't be a sheep, do what feels right. Hope all goes well for you.

Answer 4

I think at the age of 15-21, human will tend to develop a kind of curiosity. This curiousity will in the end lurk them to find out what is the feeling. And also this is age when a guy would want to have sex with a girl. For girls, it is a sense of security in order to have sex. If they really give their virginity to a guy, it will mean she really love the guy a lot and wanted to move on the next stage. This happens when girls have early love relationship.
I think there should not be any advisable age. But if you ask me I would say it is <24. If you wish to have sex, do consider that the guy will not run away and find another or he will change his heart after having. Do consider to get marry soon, otherwise too bad.
You can only use your virginity once. So use it wisely, give it to your husband and tell him he make the right choice. =)

Answer 5

I wouldn't know about most people, I was 18 when I lost my virginity. My son hasn't had a girlfriend yet and he's nearly 19. But there seem to be tons of underage pregnancies these days, so I'll say 15/16. And No it isn't advisable.

Answer 6

Sweety, when it comes to sex, age is a lot more than how many years you have been on this earth. Its all about how you feel for the person and your maturity. I'd like to say marriage is the number one answer, but unfortunately, this is a new age! If you're not ready, DON'T DO IT!!!

Answer 7

I was 18

Answer 8

In this day and age too young - thus the increase in teenage pregnancies. They think it is a good idea at the time but in most cases regret it.

Answer 9

These days you just never know could be anywere from age 12 and up way to young, not mature enough at that age.

Answer 10

Most people have their first sex around 18.Unless you think yourself it ok , there is no advisable age its actaully how u wanna go about doin it ur preferences.