dated for 3 years and were planning on getting married, we just couldnt seem to get along. lots of trust issues. i still am very much in love, but need to move on.
2007-03-24 00:00:27 · 9 answers · asked by mb31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give yourself time. Don't expect to immediately be in a new relationship - you'll be better off if you skip the "rebound" all together. Try to remember some of the things the relationship kept you from doing that you always wanted to do (foods the other person hated that you love, places you wanted to go, hobbies you didn't have time for). There is usually something in there that can get you going again. Another good tactic, when you're ready, is to write down the things that were really wonderful and you can't live without. Keep it to the absolutely best thing or two about the person or the relationship. These are the things that you will look for in a new relationship, and you won't settle for less. You won't find the same person (and this can be a really good thing - after all it didn't work), but you can find what you need. Give yourself time and concentrate on yourself for awhile - pamper yourself. Good luck!
2007-03-24 00:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by eli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that from experience once it is that you loved that person it would be hard for you to just wake up and not stop loving them anymore . Maybe when it is that someone new comes in that can replace that void and make you feel the same the way that person did you might be able to get over them . At the moment I would suggest that you just occupy yourself with things that you like that would make you happy . You are the main focus now and don't go looking for love in tall the wrong places . It is hard but you would heal in time . You also would need to have closure .. so I suggest before being able to move on you close that door and talk about why you are no longer together.
2007-03-24 00:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by bk b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was married for 6yrs my husband left 3 months ago I'm still love him very much even after i found out he cheated it has been very very hard but it does get easier i keep myself very very busy and work out at the gym every night and do body combat and get my frustrations out that way the hardest time is at night but i found that keeping myself busy gets me very tired and not much time to think i completely understand you love him but whats killing you the most and hurting the most is your brain the more you think about it the more it hurts i spent the first 2 weeks crying non stop doing nothing but thinking i would highly recommend keeping your brain busy with something else NOT easy i know but its the only way i think you can start to move one another suggestion is to write a goodbye letter which includes a thank you letter just expressing all you feel and thanking him for everything he gave you during the relationship not just material things like holding when you cry all those things and when you have done it burn it at least you have released and expressed and no one will ever know i gave my thank you letter to my husband he never said anything about it but the point was for me to release my emotions i really hope this help and best of luck
2007-03-24 00:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by feelingstupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strange but true. people can say to be so much in love & yet never learn to trust..tho the truth is its not about failing to trust but being possessive due to fears of loosing him/her when infact, holding on too tight will be the very reason to lose him/her. (look at you now)
have you discuss this issue & tried your best to meet halfway? if so & things never felt better then moving on is an option..thats if you can get over being in love with him.
2007-03-24 01:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Volunteer, join a gym, call up some ole friend and sort focus on some of their drama or happiness. These thing will allow you to get out of your own head!
2007-03-24 00:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 6 years with you he subsidized out of marriage blaming it on your newborn's "habit"? Has this newborn of yours not been around for those 6 years? Is he marrying you or your newborn? the guy relatively has some themes. looks like he will possibly not be happy interior the relationship, yet does not opt to break it off extremely yet, so he's "finding out the waters" someplace else, as a manner to communicate. i don't understand approximately you - i might initiate thinking of thrashing him to the punch.
2016-11-28 02:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep lying to urself n tell urself ur done with her and that u have no feelings towards her,, when u keep on saying this,, one day u'll believe it and u'll feel free,,
try to keep urself busy,, n do watever makes u relaxed and joyfull,, or watever u couldnt do when u were with her,,
most importantly,, be strong,,
2007-03-24 00:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wouldn't be that fast. you have take time off from each other if that's possible, because seeing that person would only remind you of the good old times. keeping yourself busy also helps, at least it takes your mind off from her.
2007-03-24 00:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my experience, don't wast your time life is too short
2007-03-24 00:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by sobrano 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋