My boyfriend has pulled away from me, he's become distant with me due to work stress. He works full-time and during his free time during evenings, he looks for a new job. He has had few interviews, some near my city but he has not been accepted anywhere yet. He's still waiting for some answers. He is unhappy with his current job and hates it. he said hes not feeling good now. Last month I became very needy of him, which made him upset. I then realised that it makes things works talking about the relationship and blaming him he does not care. I am worrying about this and I am sad worrying that he is loosing interest in our relationship as he has not been attentive and I don't hear from him much? I am happy as he texted me a couple of days ago but today I asked him if we could meet up as we live an hour away from each other. He said that weekend he goes home to see his family. I asked him about the weekend after and he replied with " I don't know, we will see". What can I do?
2007-03-23 23:41:24 · 8 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like he is under tremendous stress right now. Be supportive but by all means "DON'T BE NEEDY". Guys hate that. Ask him what you can do to help in his quest for a new job. Suggest networking through some of your friends or family to help him land the job that will put you both on the road to happiness.
Best of luck to you both
2007-03-23 23:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by TREX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you need to do is give him space. Unfortunately you aren't his top priority considering the things he's dealing with. I know its upsetting that someone you really care for has put you on the back burner. This is no time to be selfish though. Let him take some time off and allow him to become situated with some things. The less stress he has to deal with the better. If you continue to "nag" him, he'll only add you to the list of problems he has in his life and not want to deal with you at all.
2007-03-24 06:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by smartazboy7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might needs to get a hobby to take up some of "Your" extra time so you can give him the space he needs to sort out his job situation. Remember "If you love something set free, if it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't it never was"
2007-03-24 06:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be quite honest with you i would't take what he says to heart right now, you said he hates his job, well you just imagine getting up every day having to go to a work place and stay there all day, did he say why he hates it, if i was you i wouldnt try to demand attention just step back a little and let him come to you, just let him know that your there 4 him. and good luck
2007-03-28 06:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by fay y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience, if he isn't interested in you he will move on don't pressure him it's not worth all the anguish you will put yourself through.If just being you isn't enough to make him want to see you, then he has other plans for his future that doesn't include you.
2007-03-24 08:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by dogcatcher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to give him space and time.Try to understand the situation he's facing from now.Since his priority is to have a stable job just support him,dont nug him ok.
2007-03-24 06:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by cheezzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think hes cheating on you....get rid of him, he seems not to gave a **** about you
2007-03-24 10:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what to tell you it don't look good. keep am eye on him
2007-03-24 06:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋