After 6 months,why won't he tell me?
2007-03-23 23:29:52 · 10 answers · asked by Breanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
something of that sort is of a very personal nature.
he probably has a reason for hating his dad.
maybe his dad did something to him. or he broke the trust they had.Maybe he has to deal with this himself.
After all You haven't gone through the same ordeal. you don't know how he is feeling. many of us guys prefer to think out our own problems. after all the only one who knows what he is going through is him. you have never been through the same situation and therefore you don't actually know what to say. especially since every one deals with the same situation in a different way. Afterall I highly dought you have told him every aspect of your life. there are probably many things that have happened to you that he would not be able to relate to.
The same goes for him, there are parts of his life that you will not be able to relate to and therefore will not be able to help comfort him with.
If I was him I Probably wouldn't tell my girlfriend either.
The only person he should be required to tell it to is
a spouse or fiance.
so untill you ask him or he asks you
to marry him he doesn't have to tell.
so it would be best to stop asking.
This is coming from someone who knows that I can't relate to other people's problems in life. There have been things that have happened to me that not even my parents could help me with. because they couldn't relate to the problem.
So just leave him alone he doesn't have to tell you till six months before the wedding at the earliest. one month at the latest.
2007-03-23 23:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kuraimizu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be offended.
Men and their father's is a big issue, in some cases.
There are reasons for his own personal mental safety that he is not telling you.
Its a very complex issue. I would suggest getting a book for him to read. Such as Manhood by Steve Biddulph.
Don't give it to him, just leave it in his room somewhere he will find it. It will let him know that you are thinking about this particular area in his life, with out you coming across pushy on the subject.
It is a great book. Read it yourself before hand and you may get what I mean about the father son relationship sometimes being difficult.
I hope this helps.
2007-03-24 06:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by Bill B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It must be something really hurtful & will most probably take some time before your boyfriend can share his troubles with you. He may be afraid too that if you found out that you may leave because you may not like what you hear. Give him time as it may be a trust issue. Eventually when he feels you are able to cope & not run off he will tell you.
2007-03-24 10:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Vera K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't be offended. Give it time and if he does tell you, feel grateful. It could be an issue that is very deep and he may never tell you or anyone. Forcing someone to tell all is usually worse than letting it come out at the right time.
2007-03-24 06:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by Eileen M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,don't be offended. If his father hurt him, he will have put up an emotional barrier to stop himself getting hurt again. Its kinda a subconscious thing. He might not know he's doing it. Don't take it personally at all, when people are traumatised they do things like that...he's only protecting himself. Just be very patient and and very gentle he'll come to it himself when he's ready....Show him you support him and when he does tell you, be happy that he trusts you. That he trusts himself.... The very best of luck to you
2007-03-24 06:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by random cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be worried. A dad is a major part in anyone's life and if someone hates them,it's definetly worth knowing.He should be able to share anything with you.If he can't maybe you should show him how much you trust him by sharing really important matters with him too.
2007-03-24 06:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by singler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has trust issues, or he just doesnt know how to say it.
My best friend never really told me why she hates her dad
2007-03-24 06:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I won't be offended. i figure he will talk about when he's ready to.
2007-03-24 06:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be he feels hurt when he has to tak about his dad...
2007-03-24 06:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by Advengal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would like to know if i was going to spend the rest of my life with him
2007-03-24 06:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋