If you think the woman you are dating is a player, should you ask?

Question

I have been dating the same young woman for a few months (4) now. We have not made any type of comitment - I am not exclusive either but far from a player. The problem is whenever we go out the cell phone buzzes about 20 times and it is always her sister or cousin (wink). I don't ask she tells me. Additionally, I never get Friday or Saturday dates and when I do they almost always end around 9:ish. My phone calls are always short and if something spontaneous is planned then I can count on a headache, or a cold, or something. I'm no fool this woman has classic signs of a being a player. Now to flip the script she does have a large family some I have even met, and when I try to diminish my significance she is always to the contrary, and she seem insecure about me. So am I just paranoid, is my spider sense wrong. She may not be a player but she has all the signs. So, do I just go along and play the roll of a "Mark" or do I run the risk and ask the question and alienate her.

Answer 1

It does sound like she is playing you, men.

What do you want out of this relationship? If you want a commitment of sorts then you two have to define the relationship and then take it from there. See if she still behaves in the same way.

If a commitment is not on the cards, then you have to let her go. It's better to be happy by yourself than to be miserable coupled up. Don't forget that in addition to broken hearts "playing" carries the risk of STD's and HIV. Yikes! Think about yourself.

Answer 2

Dude, she's playing you, plain and simple. She might be keeping you around as somehing to "fall back on" while she keeps on scanning around, but nonetheless she obviously wants to be a playette till that happens. My guess is you don't want to be that guy. You should strive for more than being the last choice.

Since she doesn't seem keen on putting much into you, you equally should not focus too much of your energy on her. The dating scene is huge and there are lots of other women who could easily match what you want. Good Luck.

Answer 3

If she is playing around or straight with you, yuou will get the same answer, i dont prefer to ask her. Go by your feelings, if you cant trust her, then what are you doing with her???????? Although she might be a serious honest person, but you cant trust her, thats your problem not hers.

Answer 4

hi,I am a woman and if you asked me ,,No,i would not tell you ,but if you want to find out if she is serious about and you happen you take her home early every night,the stick around afterwards where she cannot see you,if she is seeing someone else you will sure find out soon enough,9 pm is sure early to take a woman home unless of course you are both under age.if not then stick around and find out.

Answer 5

You sound turned off already. Don't get serious, what you feeling now will just surface in a fight later. Find someone who is more open, especially if you're looking for a serious relationship.

Answer 6

She is enjoying life. She is not ready to be strapped down but when she does, she will be the perfect wife! Believe that!She knows how to take care of her man. Be patient!

Answer 7

I'd ask; if she is, she may not even realize it. I once had that problem. If she isn't, she may be alienated but she'll get over it if she has any feelings for you.

Answer 8

if you have to ask then your to dumb for it to even matter. because it meens your either to insecure and codependant which meens your relationship will fail anyways or she is and it will fail. you need to grow up before you get into an relationship. otherwise you will never be in a working relationship.

Answer 9

Don't ask her if she's a player. It'll make you look bad, and what's the point in asking? you may not get the truth anyway.

Answer 10

may be we can call you mark.you just come out and let her know how you feel and what's going on. that you like to know were your life is going. keep an eye on her. good luck to you