My Husbands daughter recently said she wants to stay with us not her mother. Shes 10 & lives about 2 1/2 hrs away. We are considering moving across the US w/a better job opportunity & way of living. Her mom is 32 yrs old, cant keep a job for more than two months(she has one now waitressing)her car breaks down, she smokes pot (although in divorce papers it says she cant around daughter) the daughter knows she does it. Her Mom wont let her call her Dad. She doesnt take her to the doctors when she needs to. She has had a cavity for 3 months now. We only get her every other weekend & cant do dr appts on weekends. She claims there isnt anything to eat there and eats dinner at neighbors house more often than she does at home. She does good in school and shes lived the majority of her life w/her mom though. My husband & I have a 5 mo old baby & I have a 5yr old girl. We are financially stable and I am a stay at home Mom. What do you think our chances are of getting full custody?
2007-03-23 22:51:29 · 6 answers · asked by melindah83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We of course would set up visitation with her mother still and let her see her every summer Xmas break and Spring break.
2007-03-23 22:52:19 · update #1
I would have to say very good because of her age. When you guys go to court over this they will call the child up and ask which person/people would she rather be with and if she answers you guys that gives you a huge advantage. Seeing as she can't hold a job and is financially unstable and you guys are also gives you a large advantage. I don't think there is anyway possible for her to win this, you guys will get custody. good luck.
2007-03-23 22:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're chances are very good. I also think that it it of the most importance that you do every thing possible, to get custody. She obviously is a good Child and needs you're intervention to save her and give her some stability.
I would suggest that, you get documentation,on her mothers activities, (if possible),and behavior, it will be easier and maybe necessary, to convince the Court, that you're Home is a much saver place to live.
The more proof , the easier of a transition. Keep on it, she needs you, good luck.
2007-03-24 06:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by SwissAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably good if you can prove all that. The child is too young to testify in court, nor should she have to testify against her own mother. My advice is to keep a diary, and write down what she tells you. Keep it balanced and write down both sides.
One thing that may help: who is responsible for transportation during the visitation? I got permission to move with my daughter out of state because her father was supposed to pick her up for visitation, then I would bring her back. I ended up proving that he would actually get to see her more on summer/x-mas visits because he rarely ever showed to pick her up. If your transportation situation is reversed that may help your case.
Good luck!
2007-03-24 06:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by Nadine - Unity CEO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very good if you can get the neighbor to come to court and the judge will hear what the child has to say
get a lawyer and do whats best for the child as soon as you can
2007-03-24 06:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Listen you must do whatever and i mean whatever it takes to get this girl out of that environment! I cant stress this enough, she needs to get out, and her coming to you and asking to stay souns like a desperate cry for help!
If she is left in that situation she will end up just like her Mum or worse on the streets!
Get her out of there ASAP!!!
2007-03-24 06:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by steven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very good if everything can be documented.
2007-03-24 05:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋