my husband. He's in the military and due to deploy very soon. We also have an 11 month old son. I keep giving him options to spend time with the baby, just the two of them, but he always finds something else to do. Whats going on?
2007-03-23 22:37:38 · 9 answers · asked by trikelkelley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Example of other things he does....
PLAYSTATION
I don't want him calling me in three to four months upset because he thinks he didn't have enough time with our son.
2007-03-23 22:46:21 · update #1
Sounds very familiar to me. My daughter was 2 when her Dad went to Iraq. He spent maybe a full day with her before he left. He got back kept her for a week during the 8 months he was here and then re enlisted and has been over there since. My daughter is 5 now. Of course now that he's over there he cries cuz he misses her, and she'll send him letters and stuff, but he just needs time to grow up and hopefully over there he'll do that. I would let him know that you dont want to hear him cry when hes over there, because yes it's war, but there is still A LOT of down time. Plenty of time to think about stuff and by the time he comes back your baby isnt going to remember him if he doesnt bond. Good luck.
2007-03-23 22:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by melindah83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are Men.. It is difficult for a guy to be alone with a 11 month old child!! What can he do?? coooing at him, hugging him, changing him and that's all.. A man gets uneasy and restless doing nothing... understand him. I am sure he loves the baby.. What you should do is 3 of you be together and then he may feel comfortable.
2007-03-24 05:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not want to get to close to the baby and then go away for a long time and ultimately hurt the child. He does not want to have to get close to another person and have to leave him.
Best wishes to you and your family
2007-03-24 05:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he does call and is regretful, that's his problem...You cant force his to do things with him...He'll leave and that whole absents makes the hearts grow fonder thing will happen and he'll hopefully be better with his son, when he comes home...
2007-03-24 06:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's distracted by up coming departure date. Let him know that you want him to get as much of his family as possible before leaving during a hug ofcourse.
2007-03-24 05:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may just be feeling guilty about leaving and does not want the baby getting all attached and then not have him around
try talking to him you are both adults
2007-03-24 06:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't want to get too attached to your guys' son before he leaves for the military. he may feel it'll be harder for him if he does allow himself to bond with your son.
my best advice is to talk to him about it and let him know how it makes you feel.
good luck. =]
2007-03-24 05:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by Kiri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,you can change your self in this world and not others,so stop thinking about your husband and its time you become mummy and dady at the same time the children will love you.good luck.
2007-03-24 05:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by toploser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is conditioning himslef and baby and you...let him do this way!
More emotions...more pains...for all.
Respect each other and have fun!
2007-03-24 05:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by KISH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋