I was v happy in my childhood though I didnt have a perfect or good family atmosphere but in my surroundings I found it. I mean I had it in my neighbours a family environment and I used to feel apart of them but this happiness was not for a long time, my family moved out from that place and shifted in a new place and house, I was around 9 yrs old then.
After that I suffered loneliness I didnt have a good frnd or frnd till the age of 19 then I started going to coll and then frnds came into my life.
Even today I dont have good family environment and unconsciouly I try to find that family in my frnds and where I feel I can find. My prob is I make my own stories and family atmosphere in my mind, where I create characters for myself, like a mother, father, sister, brother, lover and many other who cares for me and who loves me alot.
I want to know is it a healthy thing? The love, the family, the friends I want and I dont have I create them in my imagination, is it a good sign? pls hlp
2007-03-23 22:34:21 · 10 answers · asked by lets_smile07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that is lovely and maybe you should start writing the feelings down.You never know you could become a writer with that imagination.
2007-03-23 22:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by pups 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it's a healthy thing to do in the long run, darlin'.
Perhaps it would do some good currently -just the ease the pain. Don't you go indulging in to the thoughts/imagination.
Treat it as a phase you go through. Make some effort in the prosess to open up to new social groups or friends. When making friends-it's always important to be honest and sincere. Then you will find honest and sincere friends in return, who will care and love you for what you are.
I sincerely hope you snap out of this phase sooner than you plan to. ;) Best wishes.
2007-03-24 07:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by witch_dr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just coping with feeling disappointment in your family situation. I don't think it is weird to dream about how you wish things were, but if it becomes all you ever do, then it may be cause for concern. Just remember that you have to know the difference between real life and fantasy. I would suggest some counseling so that you can find more constructive ways of coping. Ways that are more centered in reality.
2007-03-24 05:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by ppaper.wingss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At a point you accept that nothing is perfect, you realise that in reality you have to make the best with what you have that human relations are exhausting as every individual you come into contact with is different and people don't necessarily get on with one another. family don't necessarily get on well, even though every family puts on a public "face" of harmony to fit in with the civilised society. It's normal to want stability, but as with everything, don't dwell on things too much or otherwise you end up with an excess of things and it becomes detrimental. This is just my own view.
2007-03-24 05:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I think every one has 'the perfect' situation in thier heads, its just the extent it runs too. I really wouldnt worry about it. If it gets to the extent that u are shutting out real people in favour of the little world in your head then maybe u should see someone, but until them try and make the real situation your living with better. that way u may find u no longer need the imaginary one.
2007-03-24 05:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Emma E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds healthy to me. I have friends who lack your imagination but who want to discuss the televised
sitcom's they follow and fictional developments as if it
was all part of a shared private life. Oh, and the even stranger people who follow Royals or Media Figures
around as if they were ensnared on an invisible web.
Keep thinking about the family you never had but want.
Yes, indeed, that sounds healthy to me.
2007-03-25 02:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look dear if u just imagine that in ur mind & talk it to urself thats a normal thing, however if u lie abt it to friends & other strangers now thats unhealthy.. u must be straight forward to any subject in ur life coz if they loved it or not its ur life & ur friends (they) must respect it!!
2007-03-24 05:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop imagining and make it real, get married so that u can treat u r mother in law and father in law as u r own parents and their daughters as u r sisters so get married into a gud family
Too much of imagination will get u into troubles bcoz the other person maynot care as much as u care for him/her.
2007-03-24 06:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by nakshitra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all good . that's how you like your life. now live it . by the way i like that a lot too.
2007-03-24 05:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grow up.
2007-03-24 05:39:15 · answer #10 · answered by beavis b 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋