My boyfriend drinks a lot.He keeps 20 bottles of beer in his fridge.He smokes a lot.When i say i'l leave you he says i love you the most don't betray me.I can't feel sorry for him and ruin my life.Should I break up with him.If I should how should I?
2007-03-23 22:26:25 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really want to leave him then you should. But it could be easy for him to break his habit. Let him know that you are thinking about leaving him, and if he decides to get help or try to quit, then you should try to stick around. But don't let him quit, and then have him go back to his normal ways.
2007-03-23 22:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my ex bf's been like that. x meaning i've moved on already. that was 2 years ago. and it was a 5 yr relationship. always kiss and make-up.until i finally decided it time to love myself and give myself a chance to be happy after 5 years. although i loved him so much, that was one factor i considered why i have to let go of him. in a relationship ,i realized both of you should reciprocate, should help each other. iknow you've been doing your best to him him. but is he doing his part?
will this do good to your relationship in the future? can you afford to stay with him with that habit for the rest of your life? if not, don't waste time.
But if you see he promises and you see in his action he will not do it again, then give him a chance.
Giving a chiance means providing a definite timline or deadline, not forgiving him all the time. Teach him, that he must also lear his lesson. After all, we girls can live without men, men can't just live without us. Be empowered girl, but not too much.
You're still young and believe me there are more opportunities for you ahead, more deserving guys. Just what I have experienced.
I let God decide, before i finally ended up my previous relationship, i thought over it a lot of times. Now i am with the man of my dreams, we're getting married, we love each other so much, and most importantly, he reciprocates, he listens, he treats me like a princess. That's the best part of being a woman, and i'm sorry that you're not experiencing that right now.
But note: Please pray first and ask for guidance and counsel of trusted riends also and your parents, if you have before ending this relationship, because it's really really hard going back to a previous relationship, or regret a thing that you hadn't decided well.
I wish you luck and more power. Stay happy and charming! Life is good! Believe me. You just have to find it the right time So find the best man for you. Don't be afraid. The search is not yet over.
God bless!
2007-03-23 22:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stopped 20 bottles of beer so I can tell you get out of there unless you just bein a councelor. Make sure love does not keep you in this go-no-where relationship.
2007-03-23 22:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm sorry if you are in love with him or something, but if he does that it is not healthy for you and not good for you emotionally either. Just tell him how you feel, and ignore the pitiful don't betray me act. It's in the guy handbook. I am sorry he would do that to you, what an idiot.
2007-03-23 22:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAKE some thing that looks like a big bottle of beer and put wife on it. make paper rappers for all his beers and put any name he calls you on the beer and do not pick the same type of guy. What you pick is what you get.
2007-03-23 22:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by kiss4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, who's more important to you here? You or him?
Tell you what you should do; break up with him and tell him that you are willing to give him a another chance if he changes. Then wait and see his reaction/behaviour.
If he changes after the split then consider going back to him. If not then move on with your life.
2007-03-23 22:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by Taharqa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason why he is drinking and smoking a lot!! Are you contributing to this habit?? If not find out why and slowly approach him with love and try to change him..
2007-03-23 22:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already no you want to leave him. Don't worry about his feelings worry about yours and make sure you're happy and not at the expense of someone else.
2007-03-23 22:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breake up with him gurl.....
Pack his things and throw them out of the house from the front door. When he comes back from whatever thing he does, lock the door and every door in the house.....even windows....so that he can't come in.....muahahhahaha
2007-03-23 22:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he love you he should try to get over drinking and smoking do it for you its not something you want ya kids growing up with if ya have any if he cant do it leave find someone who does care
2007-03-23 22:31:25 · answer #10 · answered by Ray T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋