What should I do?

Question

This question is not as long as it seems, I just really need advice. It will seem long because there is an optional section of what happened between me and her.

I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I hadn't been bugging her since she didn't want to talk to me anymore. We said hi occasionally, I thought things would be cool between us. I tried to talk to her. I said Hey how are you? She said nothing. I tried to talk about how she was helping with something (she was inactive at the moment). Still nothing. I told her I know we haven't talked in the longest time (I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back), but I only wanted us to be friends again. I couldn't bring myself to say I missed her because it seemed like she wasn't hearing me. She kept her back turned towards me, unlike when I saw her sneak so many glances at me this past year. She texted on her phone. She never even looked at me, never said a word. I wanted to say this message that's below to her, but I couldn't remember. All my feelings about her besides "I love you" wouldn't come up. I wanted to say I love you. I just said ok, I get the point, you don't

have to say anything else. I guess I'll just see you around. Then I left. I'm wondering what should I do for her birthday next week? I'm going to ask her friends what kind of gifts she likes. I think I probaly should just tell her happy birthday to show that I remember. Maybe I shouldn't even say that. After that, I'm forgetting all about her because ain't nothin ever gon change. Now for what happened:

She told me she was falling in love with someone else (she still talks to him but she's never seriously dated him and she's single) assuming I wouldn't say anything and I told a friend assuming he wouldn't say anything because I needed to talk to someone because I fell in love with her. I didn't know not to say anything or I wouldn't have. He said something about it around her and she got mad at me. She ignored me for a week, then when I went to her she talked to me as if uninterested in what I had to say. I gave her a month and a half space. When I talked to her, it was normal until I asked if she was still mad at me, then she said no, she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. It's been 8 months since then, and collectively about 11 months (which number counts?) I've tried to move on but I feel like I need her friendship back.

I feel like how could she still not talk to me after it's been so long since we had problems. I see her look at me when I talk to other girls and recently when I'm by myself and away from her, and she'll sneak a look at me when she's talking to another boy or hugging him (she never once hugged me, and I'm just stating I'm not crying)

Answer 1

She is enjoying the run around I tell you that. Here is priceless information. Women are proud when it comes letting men know "I like you first". So make sure the "SHE KNOWS" your door is always open. Try send flowers and chocolate with a sweet note about times, dates, small things you like about her and how you miss her. Just make sure she is very aware of how you feel so that when you approach her she knows this is someone that loves me.

Outsied of that if she utterly rejects find someone else and never bring her up. The more you concentrate your love on one girl the less others will mean to you. Especially if she does not force you to concentrate on her.

Answer 2

With due respect, let me say it sounds like a "relationship" that has existed primarily as your own mental energy all along, and not in the real world. Think of a less flip and cold way of saying "You need to move on" or "Forget about it." I don't know if nuance is being lost in your story, but it sounds almost like you were her stalker, her admirer, and that feelings were never reciprocated. This can be hard to accept. But please try.

The news is full of similar cases where the guy went and did something crazy to the girl. I'd hate for that to happen to you and her. Try and move on, then. Please.

Answer 3

I'm sorry she is acting snobbish to you. I can't imagine why you would care to buy her a gift or even say Happy B-day to her. Find a girl that can actually be nice to you. She is acting awful. My advise, is not to ever talk to her unless she talks first.

Answer 4

IT IS OVER!!!

Leave this lady alone!!

It is time for you to move on to someone else!!

Look, this girl does not see you as her champion!!

HOWEVER --THERE ARE MANY GIRLS that will see your real talents and values for the real assets that they are!!

Try to develop the characteristics and values that show how you will be a GREAT catch as a husband and father!!

Good luck!!

Answer 5

hi...I'm sorry about what you are going through and i hate to be the one who tells you this...let it go and move on, you can't win her now..maybe later, maybe not.....but not now...you need to move on, it looks like that she made up her mind about you...
at least don't be hard on your self, live your life and from time to time try to talk to her, maybe you get lucky one day
and yes you send her a present or flowers maybe both on her birth day with a nice birthday card
Good luck

Answer 6

Find another woman and spend time with her instead of worrying what this one is thinking.

Answer 7

Do you have anything else to add..dang...Go write to Dear Abby or watch an Opera show or something.

Answer 8

Read her body language.. Give UP!!!

Answer 9

yeah watever they said ^....that was long buddy

Answer 10

This question IS as long as it seems............