I want it all now!! Very Confused And Frustrated!!!
2007-03-23 22:07:10 · 15 answers · asked by ~It's A Boy *Kaiden Avery*~ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
hi there ......well having a partner that you love and want to spend the rest of youre life with does help ......look i get what youre saying you must have friends around you that have just that and i bet you look at them and think ....wow they are so lucky to have the home the husband and the kids oh and probably the dog as well and to look into there world it looks lovely ........wait right there ,...what you do not see is the arguement over the milk being left out on the work top ,the toothpaste not having the top on again ,how left there shoes on the stairs again ,get them moved now !little kid no 1 get youre homework done ,kid no2 get ready for bed ,get the dog out of the kitchen when im cleaning the floor .......now you might have had a bit of a laugh at that but believe me ive been there and i would have done anything to be single and a bit of peace and quite ......youre man of youre dreams will come along and you will have kids one day when youre both ready what i advice is get to know youre man first build a relationship that is strong and enjoy youre life as the one thing that is never said when the kids are on there way into youre lifes is .......oh hell is on its way as youre life will never be the same again .......there are great times in the future for you and youre family .......enjoy youre life as it is now as one day you will be that mad woman wanting 5 mins peace from the kids and the dog .......oh the other thing that married woman and mums have is the ability to know where everything is .........yeah right !!have a great time now and you will have a great future good luck and take care xx
2007-03-23 22:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "right" time is different for everyone. The only thing I'd advise is that you and your significant other should be married for a few years before you start having kids. You need time to get used to being married with all the changes and challenges it brings. Plus, you need some time to have fun together! You have no idea how much having kids changes a relationship. If you've had no time together to be a couple, you won't be able to figure out how to be parents together. Besides, your children have a right to be born into a stable relationship, not one that's so new it probably won't be able to take the stress.
My husband and I had been together for 7 years (married for 5) before we had our first and I think if we'd had kids earlier, we probably wouldn't be married still. The first five years of marriage are when most divorces happen because those are tough years. Give yourselves a chance to grow up, to grow together as a couple and to just enjoy eachother!
2007-03-24 07:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by sgtlambsonswife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage: when you find the person who you love and you BOTH decide you want to take that step.
having children: this should be discussed with your love interest BEFORE marriage. and i only say that because there are too many married couples who don't think these things through and collapse. so, talk with your love interest about children. as far as having them, this is what i suggest:
1) make sure you have money to support your new growing family. this means a savings account, mutual funds and so on. save. save. save.
2) get college out of the way first. if you don't want to go to college, think how you will support your family. will your spouse handle being the only one that works while you're at home with the baby? or will you have to shorten your maternity leave because bills are due? college will help you with a career. with a career comes money and insurance. choose wisely.
3) if you FEEL you two are ready to start a family, plan ahead. that's what all this is about. there are a lot of "oopsies" when it comes to children. many married couples, as well as single couples, end up not planning ahead. if you have no plan, you have no future.
and on another note, you may want marriage and children now, but you must be patient. a thing too quickly given can become spoiled. don't be so impatient because you may get what you wish for but it wont be that happy dream you had.
2007-03-24 05:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wants a family and children most of the time we are
unprepared.I think 27 is a good age to get married and if you want kids take some parenting classes be prepared
make sure you can handle it financially and emotionally
2007-03-24 09:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it's right for you. I'm 30, my hubby is 26 and we just had our first baby. We had been together for about 3 yrs before getting pregnant, and we knew the time was right for us when we started trying. Your the only one who knows when the time is right, so don't get frustrated, just go with it!
2007-03-24 05:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by ~*~MudPrincess~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Females should get married at age 18, but only if employed. Males should never get married before age 55, and only then if they are unemployed at the time. No man should ever have to change a diaper.
2007-03-24 05:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no "right time", as everyone is different.
I am 35, and just about to have my first child.
My friend is 24 and has 3 children.
2007-03-24 05:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by shoby_shoby2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right time is when your partner and you are sure that you can live together peacefully and have the financial means to support a kid growing up.
2007-03-24 06:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by JK Sy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think around the time u leave college u should get married then have a kid a year later so u can have a stable relationship
2007-03-24 05:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by Trisha Mo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
me personally i would do it in my twentys if you start haveing kids when your 35-40 yrs when your kids are 20 you will be about 60 personally i would like some time for myself when i am older
2007-03-24 08:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by outrun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋