I want a sexual night with my guy...so one night when he came home from work, i was sitting on the kitchen counter completely naked with my six inch heels, and i had whip cream, strawberries, chocolate, honey...the whole thing, out around me...He hardly noticed! he said he didnt want any...i was so sad...
I am a very attractive girl..ive done pagents and a few modeling shoots...so i know this cannot be it...im 5 foot 7 and i weight 128 lbs...I cannot figure out the problem! I mean wouldnt most guys like this?!
2007-03-23 21:32:42 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It certainly doesn't sound like you were the problem.
You sound like a very sexy person and the evening activities you were attempting to arrange would fulfill a pervasive male fantasy (I can only speak for men, for all I know this might fulfill a female fantasy as well).
Personally, my jaw would have dropped if I had seen you like this and I believe most other guys would have had a similar reaction.
2007-03-24 06:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, it's not a big secret dear, guys are people too. Do you always feel like acting when he's ready to go?
Perhaps he was tired. Perhaps he wanted more of a tender moment with you. Perhaps it just didn't turn him on. That's shouldn't automatically be a measure of his overall love and attraction for you or lack thereof. Keep your head above the emotional tide.
I know a lot of women think they are God's gift to Men. And you truly are, however, it's not always in the way you assume it should add up all the time.
The best thing to do is communicate with him about this. And when I say communicate, I mean you do more listening than talking. Don't interject your insecurities into his explanations. Allow him the time to digest his thoughts in a clear and concise manner. Don't toss assumption into the mix. That act can be a pivotal point in a relationship starting to head south.
You women are sexy creatures, no argument here. But that doesn't mean that's the be all and end all.
2007-03-24 04:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds selfish. If I had someone do that for me I would at least go along with it & show some appreciation for the thought. And it doesn't matter if you've done pagents or if you're a very large woman or whatever. If he's not with you because of your heart then you guys are doomed anyways. Sit him down when you have some quiet time & let him know he hurt you....then use your whips on him ;- )
2007-03-24 04:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by CrazyEddy06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psychology comes to my mind. I mean, he knows that you are sexy. Maybe he wants to diminish your high opinion of yourself. I don't have enough info to tell me what would make him leave things like that. But, I have had that problem before myself. So I can relate. I am attractive too. Seems like some guys will try to downplay your looks and have you to believe that too. Which is selfish and a complete power trip. Maybe even a little jealous. Like if I don't make this sexy chick feel sexy, then maybe she won't realise she's sexy. And nobody will want her. My take. Then again, he may feel like YOU are obsessing about yourself!
2007-03-24 04:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by Devee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if it were me? You would need no food to entice me. In fact you'd probably have to beat me down. Because I would defiantly give you a tongue bath from head to toe. And not leave 1 inch uncovered..But then I'd have to lick you dry too. Sorry might take a very long time (I'm meticulous)
2007-03-24 04:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't say what your boyfriend might have been put off about. But personally, I have never found food to be a turn-on. It's something I just could not get into.
If you want to test if it was the food or you, do the same thing but without the food.
2007-03-24 04:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to popular belief, guys are not ALWAYS fixated on sex. Maybe, and just a thought, he was tired. You know, like when you don';t feel like having sex?
The food thing can be fun, but timing is important too. And vanity is not a virtue, just FYI
2007-03-24 04:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by guy o 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got some really stupid answers, so let me help,does he have a stressful job, maybe he was just tired, ask him if he has something on his mind he wants to talk about. My fiancee is way hot but sometimes if I am fixated on something else, sex has to wait. Don't jump to any conclusions he will come around. good luck.
2007-03-24 06:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mc Fly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ALL OF THOSE PEOPLE BEFORE ME ARE TOTALLY WRONG AND FEEDING YOUR FEARS. some guys just are not always in the mood for sex with their girlfriend, no matter what exciting dish you put before them. I have had a similar problem. Sometimes, they are really just not in the mood, no matter what a knockout you are. Be patient. I'm sure you are totally hot. Let it go, sweetie.
2007-03-24 04:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by mbleh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most guys dream of that sort of thing.
If it's his first time he could have been flabbergasted and didn't have the nerve to take advantage of the situation.
Orrrrrrrrrr, ,maybe he already had desert.
2007-03-24 04:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by kenmauiphoto 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋