how can i get over my 5 year ex who finally is falling for someone?

Question

i had a bf for 5 years but it became a long distance one on are 3rd year and just last nov.. we broke up because he thinks i have a guy here but it turned out to be a close buddy. now he's falling for someone else (if ever, its gng to be a long distance relationship too), and im not over him yet. how do i get over him? pls help me..=(

Answer 1

Close buddy? Yeah right!

It's over now so you and your "close buddy" don't have to pretend any more.

Answer 2

There are several ways to help you in moving on. First and foremost, though, remember that there is no time limit on how you're feeling. Don't let anyone make you think it's been "long enough" for you to get over it.

You can try one, or all, of these:

1. Hang out with friends/family more. Tell them, beforehand, that you don't want any conversation that includes your ex.

2. Try something new. If you always wanted to try learning how to paint, for instance, give it a shot now.

3. Try something old. Pick one of your favorite pasttimes or a hobby and go at it, full force.

4. Start writing in a journal. Sometimes pouring our feelings out is easier on paper than it is in person. You'll be amazed, when you read your entries weeks later, at how far you've come emotionally.

5. Talk with people who've experienced the same issue. They might be able to tell you tools they used to help them through.

6. Vent to a good friend/family member. This is a great way of getting all the anger and frustration out. Make sure the person is willing to just listen.


Breaking off a long-term relationship goes through the same stages of grief that someone who lost someone through tragedy does, just not as extreme. Here is the list of the five stages of grief:

1. Denial - This is where you say, "I can't believe it's happening to me". Sometimes people don't even cry at this stage.

2. Anger - This is where you say, "Why me?" Most of the time, people feel the need for revenge or getting even.

3. Bargaining - People tend to try to make deals with the person who hurt them, or even God. They'll beg, wish and/or pray for them to return.

4. Depression - You feel hopeless, self pity and sometimes a lack of control over one's emotions.

5. Acceptance - This is the point where one realizes that it is truly over. People often search for the good that came from the experience.

Have you gone through these stages yet? :)

Answer 3

Don't force yourself, time will come for you to learn to love somebody else. Try to be open to other guys, you know just be friends or go out with friends but do not get a boyfriend just to forget that ex of yours, i hate girls when they do that rebound ****! Just take your time one day you'll just meet someone and you'll say i think he's the one and that's it you're moved on. patience that's all you need.... and remember you don't have to forget everything coz that is really hard specially you guys spent a lot f time and memories too.. do this then "FORGET THE PERSON, BUT NOT THE MEMORIES" Because those memories will make you even tougher as time passes by.

Answer 4

It is really hard to get over someone you've been close to for a while, whether it be in person or communication.

Try to think of it this way, if you loved him or liked him, know that he may be happy, and knowing that he seeked further happiness should make you happy.

If you think of him as a friend now, and that there is no way to get back with him, there is nothing you can do about it, but move on.

Listen to a few songs, get motivated, go outside, have fun with friends, get him OFF your mind, he will pass by.

Answer 5

I was recently in the same situation. It was really hard at first, and it will be really hard at first, but you will get through this!

Allow yourself to cry and mourn over him a little and then get out there and start taking care of you. Meet new people, hang out with your friends, go out and flirt, realize that you are a goddess and beautiful on the inside and out and that there is someone just for you. "Don't cry because it's over...smile because it happened". Remember the beautiful times between you and him, be grateful for them and except that there will be more happiness in your future.

Answer 6

the only thing that can help you get over someone is time. you need to go out and meet other people; that and time will help you get over that person. YOu will eventually get over that person, you won't be stuck on them forever trust me *coming from experience*

Answer 7

i went through the same thing... only time, i still have not gotten over him and it has been 8 years. but, it has gotten easier and i think of him less every year.

Answer 8

Screw the heck out of a really cute guy!

Answer 9

there are plenty of good looking fish in the big sea...
go fishing for some dude whose better than your ex..

Answer 10

He does not deserve you and he knows that very well