This guy i used to date, we still talk once in awhile but he has a major drug problem. hes gotten fat, lack of ambiton and he has attitude that he doesnt care about anything.. All of his real friends have left him, one of his closest friends had cancer and he didnt even call him.. Hes left with a bunch of friends who are all using him and do drugs with him. They also talk behind his back and make fun of him
Is there any hope for someone like this? He doesnt even talk to me anymore.
2007-03-23 21:18:09 · 16 answers · asked by Jetglam 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
there is absolutely nothing you can do for this person till he See's that he has a problem! all you can do for him is be there for him your a good friend but alcoholics n drug dependent people have too hit what we call rock bottom before were ready too quit!!!
2007-03-23 21:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is his decision to use drugs or quit drugs. You can't help him get off drugs. The only thing you can do is help him make the decision to quit abusing himself. But because it is his decision, this is very difficult, especially if he doesn't realize he has a problem, or he doesn't care that he has a problem. What I would suggest is to first research treatment options, such as rehab clinics, or Narcotics Anonymous(who's members can help your dilema immensly, btw). Then go talk to the guy. He'll probably be high as hell, but talk to him anyway. Tell him how many people care about him, and talk to him about how things used to be and how he used to have friends, and then tell him how things are now, not even getting cancer reports, etc. Be the ghost of Christmas past, if you will. Then make it as easy as possible for him to take those steps, such as giving him treatment options, and calling the number to the rehab clinic for him. Let him know that you'll be with him every step of the way, if you can be. Don't lie, or course. Carry him, so to speak. Show him exactly what to do to be clean. That's the best advice I can offer.
So to answer your question: YES, there is hope. I would not give up on the guy yet. BUT don't get your hopes up, because it remains his decision. If you take these steps and he still doesn't care, and he remains a druggie, you have not failed! HE is the one that has failed. You did all you could do. Be proud of yourself for at least trying, which is more than most people would do.
Think of it this way: If someone was shot in the chest next to you, you could call the cops, hold the wound to stop the bleeding, and scream for help. That's doing what is in your power. But you're not trained to surgically remove the bullet. In the same way, you are not trained to convince the guy to stop drugs. It's simply beyond your powers as a human being. All you can do is try. It is possible that he only resorts to drugs because he feels no one cares, so caring is a powerful thing that you could do.
I'm starting to rant, so I guess I'll go ahead and end my essay here. Best of luck.
2007-03-24 04:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by Brianman3 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he wants help, he'll ask for it. It sounds harsh but you have three choices.
1. Confront him about his drug problem, and tell him how you feel. Tell him you think he needs to get into rehab.
2. Force him to get help. If you know he's using or going to use, notify authorities. They will normally go lighter on him if you are alerting them in an effort to get him help. You can even try letting his parents know.
3. Break contact with him. He will eventually grow out of it or be put in one of the above situations by someone else. He may also be arrested and thrown in jail/rehab/detox. It is also possible (depending on the drug) that he will OD and die.
2007-03-24 04:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to realize there's a problem and want to quit. If he does, you can help him find a good rehab center to check into.
I hope that he does that, but alot of people that I knew who were on drugs are now in prison and had to get sober. And I've known a few to OD on it...it's a sad thing, but getting over a drug problem for anyone is hard...they have to want to quit before anything else. Good luck! I hope your friend is ok! ;)
2007-03-24 04:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by Buffy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, be smart about it, and keep yourself out of trouble. The first thing you can do is ask counselors to help him without getting him in trouble. Make sure you remain anonymous. Believe me or not this is the best thing you can do to save him. They know their job so well because in cases like this you cannot generalize a treatment for everyone
2007-03-24 04:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drug Abuse--There Is a Solution! :
~ Who Takes Them?
~ Why DO People Abuse Them?
~ There IS a Solution to Drug Abuse
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/7/8/article_01.htm
2007-03-24 05:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always hope!! But he has to help himself. You can only go so low, then the only other thing is to go up.Don't want to say anything morbid, I hope he realizes that he has people that care about him, like you!! Its up to him how he wants his life to go. All you can do is hope and pray!! I hope for the best. I know some people like that too!!
2007-03-24 04:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lori F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to want to get off of drugs nobody can help him until he decides to take the first step
2007-03-24 04:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by Dennis G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn him in to the police and he could get a reality check in jail
2007-03-24 04:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is not your responsibility. Only he can commit to quitting and go through recovery.... he may never do so.
2007-03-24 04:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by Neil L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋