how do i overcome shyness? not just about talking to others but appearance..?

Question

i really want to be the kind of person that is "out there" but something holds me back everytime. I feel like i have a weird personality, and i don't really like my appearance and i get parranoid* when im around people because i feel like they are judging me or something.. What makes me think this and how can it stop?

Answer 1

don't try to push yourself into it all in one go. Try setting yourself a small target of people you have to talk to in one day.
As for having a weird personality, everyone does! I know I do... you just have to find people you feel comfortable with who are open minded. As for appearance, it has nothing to do with looks. People like people who stand up straight and smile. When you walk, try imagining there's a string on top of your head pulling you up straight. Sounds weird but it works! Try wearing colourful clothes too and don't cross your arms. Then you'll look fun and approachable! Hope this helps!

Answer 2

The following way can help you overcome shynees:

1. Make a commitment to walk away from shyness.
2. Note the situations where you feel shyness holding you back most strongly.
3. The next time you are in this situation, do something just a little bit more outgoing than you would normally do (smile, make eye contact, ask a question, etc.).
4. Relax and remember that mistakes help you learn.
5. Repeat steps 1-4 until you have reached your desired level of 'outgoingness.'

As you know, this can be a really tough process. Don't give up.Once you cycle through the steps a few times it gets easier and easier.It takes a lot of practice, hard work, and guts to beat this thing.

Answer 3

Well all you gotta do is just hold your head up high. Be confident, be happy, think positive!!! A friend of mine was really shy during school years till she reached high school then she took some drama classes and now shes outgoing and talkin alot. Join some clubs, join a sport, get out there! Do somthing you enjoyable and you'll meet cool people who are just like you =) YOU GOTTA GET OUT MORE !!!! ;)

Answer 4

Have you ever ****** a pita pocket before? if not this could be your problem... how can you face the world when youve nevergone down on a pita pocket?

Answer 5

I've found it helps to practice what your going to say, like talk to yourself sometimes to help you not be shy. Hope that helped.

Answer 6

ya know i have this shyness too.

but i got rid of it..

i just show them that i can do whatever they can do..
i followed my dreams

and just be me..