I am friendly with this guy who live in my building, theres 25 apartments.. i saw him the other day and he told me oh hows your Mom, then he starts imitating her voice and goes "Hows your cat doing" and walks down the stairs to go out.. My Mom has a foreign accent and he was imitating her. I found it to be really offensive and insulting.. Ever since then ive been avoiding him and been really cold. I dont want to talk to him anymore, am i right about this?
2007-03-23 20:51:47 · 20 answers · asked by Jetglam 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
he has a cat and my mom likes it thats what he was making fun of
2007-03-23 20:54:06 · update #1
i didnt tell her what she said because i dont want her to feel bad
2007-03-23 20:59:05 · update #2
He is a total idiot. How dare he make fun of your mother ! She is being nice and friendly and even likes his cat and THEN he makes fun of her. What a jerk.
To answer your question YES you are right to be offended.
2007-03-23 21:13:22 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you're right!
If that's the only reason you avoid him, and you liked being friendly with him otherwise, the next time you see him just go right up to him in a friendly kind of way and say "somethings been bugging me, I think you owe me an apology, that was my mom you were making fun of you know. I don't think that was very nice, I wouldn't poke fun at your mom" and laugh,
Don't say it in a confrontational way, make a joke of it. That will make it easier for him to apologize and at the same time he'll get the message.
2007-03-24 04:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one to answer based on the fact that it's hard to understand what his intentions were.
If you see him again, try talking to him and telling him calmly but firmly that what he did was offensive. He will react in one of three ways, and based on them, I can offer advice on how you should respond:
1.) He will apologize for his seemingly offensive behavior. At that point, you may forgive him (and of course, ask him nicely not to do it again) and continue correspondence as normal.
2.) He will shrug it off or ignore the question. If he does so, then you might want to ignore him for a while.
3.) He'll say something cold like, "Get over it!" or insult you or her again. If that happens, then you are well within your right to be cold to him.
2007-03-24 04:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by cougarmint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so easy for someone such as that guy to be a jerk about your mother in that way.Your mom speaks with an accent so what?People like him are petty and cruel and I think you should stay away from him because I think he meant it as a mean way of making fun of your mom.If you happen to run into him and can't avoid talking to him try not to anyway.Sounds to me like he has a screw loose and can't be trusted.Any way that was weird of him to say that even if he did mean it as a joke.Why are people so petty and constantly want to take cheap shots at other in this way?Stay away from him,who needs it?
2007-03-24 04:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you were offended... but if you were friendly before, give him another chance. I'm guessing that he's actually rather fond of your mother.. he obviously remembers her and thinks to ask about her... the little 'mom impersonation' was probably meant harmlessly and was to show that he DID know who he was asking about.
As a previous answerer said... it would be a good idea to let him know that 'mom jokes' aren't cool... and definitely wise to NOT pass it on to her... but the world is already unfriendly enough..you don't need to add to it over what was probably innocent teasing.
2007-03-24 04:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK does he have have a phone of any kind(cell, home phone?) leave a mystery message saying stop teasing my mom. Or to handle it maturely, tell your mom about the situation and see if she'll do something about this. Besides, this problem may bug YOU but he was imitating your MOM not YOU. He probably will stop if your MOM puts him in his place.
2007-03-24 04:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by sulution_thang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was totally necessary mental combat. Wot kind of person would just let that go? It is definetly not right to let someone imitate a close friend or family member! Keep ignoring him : ]
When in doubt, figure it out!
2007-03-24 03:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by ☼Scientific Athletic♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be making fun. Being cold and distant is certainly yr choice but I don't think it contributes to making yr world better. Give him a chance. If he does something that makes u uncomfortable again, just tell him that even tho he may not intend it , u DO feel insulted.
2007-03-24 03:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by front door 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He certainly crossed the line with this comment.
I wouldn't go out of my way to avoid him, if you see him, just say hello and keep walking. If he says something like this again, ask him why he is doing this and you find it inappropriate. Take it from there.
Don't be afraid.
2007-03-24 12:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can well understand you feeling offended by your neighbors in appropriate comments, I would feel the same. Try not to dwell on it, and move on, just say hallo in the future, and leave it at that- he should get the message!
2007-03-24 04:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by June S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋