in order to work? like a car needs a tune-up? or should they just naturally fall into place?
2007-03-23 20:40:20 · 16 answers · asked by kathy g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i've been in one for several years now, and things seems routine and predictable. but, it seems like i'm the one doing all the work in maintaining this relationship. do all men just leave that up to women?
2007-03-23 20:50:44 · update #1
You gotta lube them up every now and again.
2007-03-23 20:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Knuckles™ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A relationship in this respect is just like a marriage ,,, It takes constant effort on the part of both parties ,,,, Once one or both of them start getting tired of the relationship then the whole thing starts to fray and fall apart ,,,, This is why it's very important for two people contemplating marriage should look at their intended in every way possible and from all possible angles ,,,, Marriage is supposed to be a permanent thing ,,,, That's not so true this day and age though ,,,, Some people change spouses like most people change their underwear ,,,,
2007-03-23 20:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All things take hard work. Relationships, even seemingly-perfect ones are not that perfect, not even at all. Good relationships take hard work and yes-maintenance. But it is the maintaining in compromising and give and take and communicating with each other that makes it work-relationships take TWO people to make it work, not just one. If everything just fell into place, then it would be too perfect, and too boring, and too predictable. Nobody said that relationships would be easy, but then again-nothing worthwhile ever is easy...
2007-03-23 20:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Noodles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They need constant attention--think of a relationship as a baby--it needs something every few hours--feeding, changing the diaper, napping, etc. Spending time alone is actually much more important to a relationship than most people realize. The main thing relationships require every moment of every day: complete and total honesty. And THAT takes work.
2007-03-23 20:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All relationships need maintenance of some sort or another to some degree or another--people change, situations change, life rhythms and values change--people much grow and change with it as individuals and as a couple to find a new balance or new level.
You can meet someone and live happily ever after...but the "ever after" does not happen by magic. There is no pixie dust that covers you and absolves you from tending, growing, and maintaining your relationship.
2007-03-23 20:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by answerme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes they do need maintainance. Our love and relationship comes from the heart. The heart is a muscle, and a muscle needs to be exercised, maintained, and worked if it is going to work well for you. A relationship is the same way. No things do not fall into place without work on your part and his part. Relationships at its best, there is going to be issues and problems that arise that neither one of you can agree on. When that happens, "agee to disagree." But if you don't continually work on your relationship, yes it will fall apart from lack of maintaince.
2007-03-23 20:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most definitely ... and more than you probably think. try to name me one living thing that does not require maintenance and can still perform perfectly ... the first thing we have to do every morning is to wash our faces and brush our teeth for starters. plants need to be watered and pruned. pets need to be fed. hair need to be combed. all these on a daily basis, for the rest of our lives. and all that doesnt even include having a relationship.
but if you treasure your relationship, you would definitely spend time to maintain it on a daily basis. the more you maintain it, the earlier you spot problems that can be rectified early. do not let maintenance frighten you - it's like brushing your teeth every morning - it becomes second nature to you after a while if you adopt the correct good habits :)
all the best !
2007-03-23 20:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by peace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone has problems and imperfections. Minor habits can be changed, but for a relationship to work, the major characteristics of a person cannot be changed because they are a part of the person and are incorruptible. True love accepts all imperfections and makes them perfect in one.
2007-03-23 20:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by Matt M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it just depends on the two people that are in the realtionship with one another. some people can get along fine but then there are people that has nasty habits that needs to be changed in order to be compatible with the other mate. but like all relationships it takes time, work, trust, honesty to be completely...or should i say almost perfect.
2007-03-23 20:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is perfect. If you are in this for more then right now you need to work at it. If you want to get cut you have to work out, if you want to lose weight, you have to diet.If you want a relationship to work and not get dull/boring, you have to maintain and keep it fresh.
In other words just like life nothing just happens.You have to work at it not just wait for it.
2007-03-23 20:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by bjustnape 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
relationships do need some maintenance. when you've been together awhile things tend to get a little stale. occasional surprises or changes make things more interesting.
2007-03-23 20:45:16 · answer #11 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋