I just went on a 1st date with a guy and it seemed to to go okay. we met up at 8 and were out until 2:30... but at the end he didn't even TRY to kiss me. Does that mean he's not into me??
2007-03-23 20:19:05 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I think he is well mannered guy and she respected you. It's a first date of course.
2007-03-23 20:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, men do not take subtle hints, as a matter of fact they usually wouldn't know a hint of any kind unless you hit them in the head with a board and said this is just a hint of what I want from you, and then they'll think your kidding or read way too much into it and go way overboard, and ESPECIALLY not on a first date. Don't get me wrong there is the over confident jerk who thinks he can have any women he wants, but that's obviously not the person we are talking about.
Have you known him long or was this a kind of feel each other out kind of date. Some guys are unsure of or shy about what to do next. And many of these same guys wouldn't mind you getting things started with a little peck but don't push to hard after that unless your the dominant kind, and if you were you wouldn't be here asking this question.
Don't be disheartened by this he may be waiting for next time or he may not have felt that things went that well. Wait for his call or if he doesn't call in a couple days and your confident enough call and ask him out for the second date. You never know, he might like it or he might reconsider his take on how the first date went.
2007-03-24 03:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by ScootersVoice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ladies who are answering with "he's not into you" SHUT YOUR MOUTHS! You have no idea what you're talking about... let a guy handle this one.
It means he's feeling out the situation. We guys are put in an awkward situation when we kiss a girl for the first time. It is a showing of affection... of FEELINGS. We don't like to show them without trusting someone first. We feel vulnerable when we show this feeling because... what if you think he came on too fast. Suddenly it's awkward. What if you didn't feel everything went well? The feeling we have isn't mutual and now you have his affection but he doesn't have yours.
Give it another date or two. You'll know for sure when he does kiss you.
2007-03-24 03:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are other reasons..other than him just not being into you. It could be that he wanted to respect you...(for once a nice guy) or that his morals and values taught him differently then to kiss on a first date...(like maybe wait until you both are comfortable)....my fiance and I saw each other for a long time before we kissed....but when we did it was amazing! Remember us girls are not the only ones who get nervous...he could have been nervous to try and kiss you...dont sweat it..just play things out and see where it leads next time.
2007-03-24 03:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that definatly does NOT mean he doesn't like u. Maybe he knows about the rule, "Never kiss on a first date."
If the date went as well as u say it did then he probably likes u and would love to go out again.
Hope this helps
PS: Maybe he was nervious to make a move. Just give him time and RELAX.
2007-03-24 03:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! I (I'm a guy) have been slapped on more first dates than I can count for trying to go in for the kiss. Maybe he's got some of that going on.
2007-03-24 03:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dr_Adam_Bricker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he is not interested in you
Alternatively it could also mean he has had a good upbringing and actually respects women - in which case you will probably be dumping him by the 4th date - if it even gets that far
Your lack of information in your question (e.g. an honest description of each party)- makes the question a bit difficult to answer with precision
2007-03-24 03:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by JET99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing someone doesn't necessarily mean that you're into them. Give him a little more time, maybe he's just a conservative type. Would you rather go out with someone aggressive on a first date without knowing where he'll take you?
2007-03-24 03:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by alain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was his attitude like? Was he aggressive? Was he very polite and conservative? If the latter is the case, there is a high probability he digs you. Guys out there that aren't into the whole being a player and being overly aggressively are usually reluctant to make moves right away.
2007-03-24 03:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by sirtitan45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i got to kiss you on the first date, id think u were slutty and try to sleep with you the next date, hes a good guy and wants to think that you are a good girl because he likes you
2007-03-24 03:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by Austin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋