I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 3 months now. I really love her alot, and she feels the same for me. But for some reason we're really shy together. I can't seem to make eye contact with her. Yet, with other people all I do is make eye contact when we talk. I don't know why I can't with her specifically. I don't know if it's from fear or anything like that.
It could be that i've never actually been in a relationship before. I'm 21 now. And she's 19. We're both virgins too. Neither of us believe in making love before being in love. We've kissed and everything, but nothing more than a kiss on the lips goodbye or hello. I'm not really sure how to overcome the barrier between us. We just seem really shy in the relationship itself. (both of us) And i'm not really sure how to muster the courage to take charge and kiss her or make eye contact when we talk...or even take the next step with her romantically.
Thanks guys, help would be appreciated.
-Ryuichi
2007-03-23 20:09:56 · 5 answers · asked by Ryuichi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey man, i know what you mean, i've been with my girlfriend for eight months and believe me, time goes by really fast. look at it this way your 21 now and soon you'll be 22 and then 23 and you'll just keep getting older. life is to short to be shy and scared, trust me i was like that when me and my girlfriend started going out. you don't want to let time pass you by and then regret that you never did anything. so swallow your fear and just look at her. i mean you think she is beautiful right? then wouldn't you want to look at her face all the time. you don't really need to muster any courage, just be unexpected. i mean the next time you see her just run up to her and give her a really big kiss. you love her and there is nothing wrong with that. if you don't make a move then your relationship won't go anywhere. so suck it up and go for it. don't worry about what she'll think cuz she loves you and that means that any thing you decide to do she'll like. so the next time she talks just look at her beautiful face and tell her she looks beautiful and plant one on her lips. trust me she'll like that a lot.
good luck, i hope this helped you :)
-David
2007-03-23 20:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by TheDrummer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very sweet but if you are 21 and are too shy to make eye contact, you would probably benefit from some relationship counseling. I am not a psychiatrist or psychologist, but how can you have a girlfriend if you've never looked into her eyes? I don't know if it's shyness or what, but I would definitely get a little counseling to resolve the problem. It could be a very simple fix - so make that call! Good luck!
2007-03-23 20:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by bernadette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you are 21, perhaps you just need a little more time to grow up. Everyone does not mature emotionally at the same age. Just relax & see what happens. If it's meant to be, everything else will come naturally.
2007-03-23 20:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by lilbet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. well 1st just let me say that i thought i would have the same problem but i didnt. well the whole eye contact thing you really just to belive in yourself its a real powerful feeling when you dont feel weird when you can easy lee look into her eyes. once you over come it you'll start to be able to take it farther.
good luck man
2007-03-23 20:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time, it happens all the time.
When you feel more comfortable w her around, you will do it.
Since you know that it is hard to make eye contact, work on it everyday. Make some eye contact here and there and you should be fine.
2007-03-23 20:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋