Ok, there's this girl in my statistics class that I really like but the thing is she's so quiet that I don't know much about her. I tried making small talk with her just to break the ice (things like, "So how do you think you did on the test?" or "Anything interesting happen last week?") but she doesn't really seem like she wants to talk or has her mind on things other than me. What sucks the most is that I go to a JC that's a commuter college, so I only see her like twice a week and that's it. What should I do?
2007-03-23 19:52:09 · 13 answers · asked by neilgant18 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
brother there are differnt sides to your question, its your side and then its her side. she could be either involved with someone, not interested or either shy. As far as your side, you should consider your range in women i.e. how attractive is this girl? Is she in your range of women as far as the physical aspect. Don't get me wrong..not saying you're unattractive but she may have a certain type she's looking for and maybe you're not that type, now she could be shy and not used to professional convo or arrogant and stuck up. but, all in all I encourage you keep trying your luck, I have been in this situation before so I know how you feel. there is someone for everyone and there is somone who meets your standards. I would say if she is not biting than move on to the next fish :-)
2007-03-23 20:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk, talk, talk, and then talk some more. I know the type, because she is exactly like me. Very controlled, and only speak when we feel it is absolutely necessary. If you want a reaction out of her, you one, have to be respectful, two put things in positive perspective, only b/c most people seem to respond well to optimist, and the most important thing is keep your words flowing. It seems like you have a difficult time speaking as well, the two of you will make a great pair, but NOTHING will happen if no one intiates a conversation. You have already tried, good job, she knows you exist. Now, just talk, NEVER about anything serious...that comes after two months or so. Just, trust me. Talk, when you have a cool coment don't hesitate, its not like you have time. In about 8 weeks the semester will end, and you only see her twice week. That is about 15-16 times max. Happy Hunting.
2007-03-23 20:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Heero Yui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get close to her you will have to befriend her.You should frequently talk to her.What excuse you will require depends on the circumstsances and your tact and abilities.It is not quiet people do not have emotions and feelings,only a person should be smart enough to make even quiet people talk.Now that is your test,so prepare yourself.Ther is no point in just drifting like this.I think you are wasting your time.Remember time and tide wait for none.
2007-03-23 20:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by sheru_715 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself...are you generally a direct or indirect sort of person? If you're aggressive and come on strong and that's your natural personality....you may as well approach her directly--something like: Hi I'd like to get to know you better, want to get a coffee or something?....If you're shy and like to warm up to people before you reveal things about yourself, just leave a flower on her desk and smile...she's either interested or she isn't...you can't force attraction, but you can always be friendly & open and nothing says that better than a beautiful, genuine smile...Hygiene helps, too!
2007-03-23 20:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jain D' Vine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Is there anything wrong?" or "are you ok" sometimes asking directly. Or tell her that you like her and noticed that she was quite a lot and wondered if there was something that was bothering her. Maybe she has a lot going on and she is tired all the time. I good joke to crack her up might break the ice.
2007-03-23 19:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sergeant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever I see "break the ice" that's an immediate clue that you're too weak. Your "small talk" is pathetic.
You need to listen to an old 60's song by the Mamas and the Papas. There's a verse in it that goes: "Warn out phrases and worn in gazes won't get you where you want to go...NO!"
2007-03-23 19:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Joe C 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i was quiet and shy like that and my best advice to you would be to talk more to her. set up study date maybe? just show her you are interested in her at least freind wise if shes not open to intimate relationship. you can always work your way into that but be her friend first. just tell her that youd like to get to know her better cause you like her. i was always shy until i got to know someone so that might be the case with her. nothing ventured nothing gained. try harder and dont give up. hope this helps.
2007-03-23 19:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by war 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say that u 've some doubts in stat and take her number start ringing her up, discuss interesting things, know about her friends, convey her through her friends that u adore her
It takes time but u will suceed
It is man who has to intiate certain things.
All the best
2007-03-23 19:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by nakshitra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kudos to you for trying small talk with her. Maybe you could keep a pleasant, open demeanor around her with similar intermittent small talk encounters in case she reciprocates. In the meantime, keep using that small talk with other girls . . . Good luck!
2007-03-23 19:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by alma_jolie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live with regrets by giving up or keep on trying.
She might be really shy or simply preoccupied without the intention of hurting you by being quiet.
Try complimenting her (honestly) don't flatter her (dishonest).
2007-03-23 19:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. International 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋