What should I do?

Question

This question is not as long as it seems, I just really need advice. It will seem long because there is a letter on the end (optional to read), which will be explained, and an optional section of what happened between me and her. I'm trying to make sure everyone knows they can make this short.

I've been missing a girl for 11 months. I hadn't been bugging her since she didn't want to talk to me anymore. We said hi occasionally, I thought things would be cool between us. I tried to talk to her. I said Hey how are you? She said nothing. I tried to talk about how she was helping with something (she was inactive at the moment). Still nothing. I told her I know we haven't talked in the longest time (I liked her, then fell in love with her, but she never liked me back), but I only wanted us to be friends again. I couldn't bring myself to say I missed her because it seemed like she wasn't hearing me. She kept her back turned towards me, unlike when I saw her sneak so many glances at me this past year. She texted on her phone. She never even looked at me, never said a word. I wanted to say this message that's below to her, but I couldn't remember. All my feelings about her besides "I love you" wouldn't come up. I wanted to say I love you. I just said ok, I get the point, you don't

have to say anything else. I guess I'll just see you around. Then I left. I'm wondering what should I do for her birthday next week? I'm going to ask her friends what kind of gifts she likes. I think I probaly should just tell her happy birthday to show that I remember. Maybe I shouldn't even say that. After that, I'm forgetting all about her because ain't nothin ever gon change. Now for what happened:

She told me she was falling in love with someone else (she still talks to him but she's never seriously dated him and she's single) assuming I wouldn't say anything and I told a friend assuming he wouldn't say anything because I needed to talk to someone because I fell in love with her. I didn't know not to say anything or I wouldn't have. He said something about it around her and she got mad at me. She ignored me for a week, then when I went to her she talked to me as if uninterested in what I had to say. I gave her a month and a half space. When I talked to her, it was normal until I asked if she was still mad at me, then she said no, she just didn't want to talk to me anymore. It's been 8 months since then, and collectively about 11 months (which number counts?) I've tried to move on but I feel like I need her friendship back. This is what I was going to say to her, but now I'll just write it to her (if I even do that) and try to forget her.

Answer 1

Chalk it up as an experience with someone who can be "cruel", & move on with your life.