I've been dating this really great guy for about a month and a half, and he really wants to have sex, but I'm just now getting on birth control and I am a little worried, because he isn't a virgin and I am. Should I just dive in and have sex with him or should I ask him to wait until I feel more comfprtable, and have been on the pill for a month.
2007-03-23 19:46:01 · 18 answers · asked by Dusti D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would wait. If he is pressuring you I would wait to see if he sticks around a while to see if he is really a great guy. Then you know if he is worth giving your virginity to him.
2007-03-23 19:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Lexi's mommy had twins! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like you dont want to have sex just yet, or you are nervous and a little scared, which is okay coz we all were. All these people telling you to wait until he loves you and you love him, im sorry to say that sex isnt a fairy tale and the person you are first with will not likely be the love of your life, but it has known to happen i guess. Follow the way you feel, tell him to wait a little longer, because you are not comfortable. If he likes you and understands he will not leave you.
2007-03-24 02:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask him, tell him. Under no circumstances should you do anything you do not feel ready for. And by the way, are you just now getting on the pill because of his pressuring you to have sex? You might want to re-examine whether you will be comfortable with this even a month from now.
Tell him it's your way or the highway.
2007-03-24 02:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You soun like u arent ready. If i were u i would wait a little till u kno u really care for him and he cares a lot for u back. a month and a half to me is pretty soon, unless its love at first site. trust me, if u believe ur not ready, and u still go do it. TRUST ME, u will feel so weird next to him, u will feel like u have made a big mistake. My friend lost her's to a guy that later dumped her, it was a disaster. not trying to make u scared, but u should wait a little.
2007-03-24 11:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really not ready, don't.
If you are taking the pill, you recognize that by having sex
you can reproduce.
If you recognize this, then you recognize that a child will
result.
If a child will result, you can ask yourself, would I rather
the father of this child be my husband or the guy that just
wanted to have sex.
Bottom line, I would encourage abstinance until marriage.
2007-03-24 03:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by Northwest Womps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have sex with him untill you and only you are ready. That is something that you can never take back and if you didn't want to then it will be like nothing or like it didn't even matter whenever it's something that should matter. So I would say just wait until your ready.
2007-03-24 02:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lacie Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right. Hold on. You have to be comfortable with him before diving in bed. By holding on you would also get to know whether he is in love with you by understanding your reasons or he is just wanting to have sex. If your refusal frustrates him & he leaves, then pat yourself on the back. Your ideals saved you .
2007-03-24 02:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by TheSage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till u love him and he loves u, if u feel he wont screw u then leave then do it and make sure everything is beautiful. Dont let him push you into it and wait a few months 2 make sure, get him tested for std's or aids too.
2007-03-24 02:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your ready u will no and if ur scared or have to keep asking yourself if ur ready than u most likely arnt. dnt be pressured or forced to do anything you dont want or feel comfortable with. also if u rush into it, it wont feel right so take your time and have sex when your ready. theres nothing wrong with waiting
2007-03-24 02:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wants u 4 the sex he loves he ill wait
if u dont feel its right then dont, i dont t hink u know him that well u only been w/ him for 11/2month thats not long enough i think he is presuing u if u think he is the 1 just give it some time b/c thats something every precuise
i wish the best of luck gril !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-24 02:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋