Why my friends are not talking with me ?Is there any wrong in me?

Question

since 3 years i am trying for job . but i didnt get it . all my friends got job.since 1 year all my friends are not talking properly with me. they are talking formally.i dont know why they are doing like that . In my college day i am very close to evry one . i talk.and chat with all my friends .in school days also i was very close to evry one . but now no one is talking properly with me.
Even my best friend is not talking with me properly. is they are not talking because i didnt get job or any thing else. please answer me

Answer 1

well its not cos they're looking down on you or anything... after graduation from college people tend to drift apart due to work being hectic and being at different workplaces, meeting new friends etc...
it will happen to you too when you get a job...
quit worrying dude it's normal...

-mav

Answer 2

You are no longer a kid; those carefree fun days are over. It is very important to realize being an underachiever is very very serious.

People, regardless classes, only want to associate with their peers. You are no longer their peers; in fact, you are not even in par with their subordinates. They naturally will distant them from you.

In the nature process, folks like you will find friends in the lower striatum in the society and, later on, lower and lower. Eventually there will be no dispute that you are a complete loser.

If you now sense this unpleasant taste, it is actually a fortunate thing, because not all losers can reach this feeling you have.

You should use this set back to motivate yourself and recall all the slacks you did while in college. Look forward and try to work hard and be honest to yourself with the following rules:

1. Always be a nice at heart, be nice from inside out.
2. Always be a giver, never expect anything from anyone. you earn everything on your own.

3. Never even thinking about taking any short cuts, you only cheating yourself that way.

4. Complete integrity, rather paying high cost than escape with dishonesty. Honesty is the favor you do to yourself, not for others.

5. Pay attentions to details, take on very very hard tasks and challenges. Do not afraid of being failing. A fail after doing your best is totally different from failing due to delinquency.

Few years, you should be established and you will have friends you care to have. Because, they simply need and respect you because of you.

Answer 3

Maybe they are not talking to you because they feel like they are somehow better than you now that they have gotten the job that you have been trying to get. Don't worry about them! There are more than 6 billion people on the planet - why not make some new, caring friends and move on?

Answer 4

People start to act differently after college. Some will find better jobs than others and sometimes they think they are above you because they have better jobs. The people who have ugly faces will show them eventually. You dont' want to be around them anyways cuz they'll throw negativity in your life. In life, there is no reason to stick to one group of friend. Always make new ones even if you feel you have plenty already.

Answer 5

Well, nothings is wrong with you, you are who you are. Pefrect the way you are. If anyone says there your friend and is not talking to you because you don't have a job then there not your real friends.If there your only friend's then find knew sensible friends that like you and will always be there for you and talk to to you all the time. And I if they don't like you cuz you don't have a job. That seems pretty lame. Good Luck though.=D They should like you cause of your personailty. Now, I'm done :) Oh and why don't u talk to them and ask them whats up, Just do what your heart says.

Answer 6

I don't know you or your friends, but it could be that your friends know about your unemployment and it makes them feel uncomfortable because they feel badly that they have a job and you don't. I don't think there is anything wrong with you. It sounds like you might be a foreigner to the U.S. This could be contributing to your inability to get a job so far. But, if you want to solve this problem with your friends, you need to come right out and tell them how you feel about your talk with them. Tell them that it just seems that things aren't the way they used to be and that you feel like an outcast friend. Ask them to explain their feelings towards you and if there is something that needs correction on either side, then it can be dealt with. There isn't a way to really get around this issue, except to be open and honest with your friends about this issue.

Answer 7

I am sorry to ask this, but what is the reason for your unemployment? I understand the "right start to a career" approach, but 3 years is quite long in my opinion. Your friends may begin to feel that your lazy to work. moreover, you are the only one that has all the time in the world now! this is also another reason for you to feel your friends are'nt giving you enough time or attention. The best solution to this is to get your self into a job ASAP!

Answer 8

Get up and go. Do something like if you rember you were always around town trying to do something or go somewher. go clubbing or someting. thats what i do i call them all up and ask if the want to go 2 a rave and boom were their talking. or if your not next to them send emails play a mmorpg with ur long distance friend. Its all about contact. ;-)

Answer 9

Don't think about such friends....i think they are not ur good or best friends...Friend in need is friend in deed. U try for job...get a good job...and show them that u have also got the job...but after that don't talk to them try to make new friends...........Once agian...they are not ur good friends...

Answer 10

talk to them about their ignorance..if they do not talk properly..means they do not need you,they may be feeling ashamed for having a jobless friend..so better you make new friends and forget them because they are not your true friends.good luck..