this girl
she
a. doesnt want us to go out cause shes afraid we'll lose the friendship we have when we break up.
- i say, the only reason im such good friend with you is because i wanna be with you. we're great friends and she tells me everything.
b. will not and will never like me in that way, her words not mine. she says we're just friends and that all we'll ever be.
-i say we'll then we're not gonna be friends much longer cause this is the way its gonna be. you and me lets see what happens, or u go on out with that guy u dont even like and we dont speak anymore.
how do i get over this? she live so close to me and we see each other every day. this happened before, but this time, i duunno, mightve turned out different. i dunno.
2007-03-23 19:13:36 · 11 answers · asked by thesunman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
can i say anything to get her to give me a chance? she says she doesnt want to force herself to like me, i dont want her to either
2007-03-23 19:16:56 · update #1
we're great friends, we spend alot of time together, and its always fun.
2007-03-23 19:17:41 · update #2
its better just keep the friendship than lose it....go out with other friends...;>
2007-03-31 17:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, 1st of all you are going to have to learn to be a little more flexable. For your own good. You will learn that you cannot dictate over anyone. and ultamatems never workout for anyone. Your intentions are not sounding like they are in the right place. You say you was only her friend bc you wanted to be with her in other ways. That isn't fair to present yourself to her like that. She may see that and that's why she won't be with you as your gf. And you need to respect other people thoughts, ideas, feelings, needs and wants. Especially if they don't go along with what you have in mind or planned. That's the no.1 way to make enemies... is to disagree with someone and not respect their difference. How could they see your side of things if you can't see theirs? Luck be with you
2007-03-24 02:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by Alley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough one, but be brave! Actually your friend is being wise, because if you guys do get together, and then break-up, it will be very hard for the friendship survive. I think you need to just step back from all the pressure you're obviously putting on her, concentrate on being her best friend. Girls especially develop a very close bond with guys to whom they reveal stuff, so you've just got to hang-in there a little bit!
2007-03-24 02:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by fabby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look you are young and you can get over this...im no tthat old and can tell you if you can act relaxed like you dont care and just move on that girl will sometime take notice of you...my love in highschool was my best friend ..we both though about dating at times but agreed we werent ready to be with each other that way...one day it just happened...
if your looking for love you wont find it you can only find love when love finds you..
2007-03-24 02:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by camden 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if what she's saying is true that you won't be more than friends, then perhaps you have to think things seriously. maybe you have to point your attention somewhere else coz it will only hurt you. maybe you can still be friends when your feelings is no longer as intense as now. right now, you have to give yourself space and a chance to meet other girls.
2007-03-24 02:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey there(:
i'm in de eaxact same situation, only i'm de girl. so i'll try to make u see things from HER point of view mayb det'll help abit more.
she really likes you. really as a fren only. but dets it. she cant see u being more wif her cos it'll ruin evrything.see..guyfrens and boyfriends are 2 diff things. guys act differently depending on who they are to a girl.
u must reall mean a lot to her for her to say det to you. cos if she realli dun feel anything for you, dun care for you at all, she'll be all "its over dude". but she didnt. she still wanna keep things gng.
its not abt getting over her. its abt accepting her. accept her as ure fren. respect her as ure fren. if u still do like her more den a fren, keep it to ureself and hope det eventually, she'll see u as one too. and mayb start to show signs of interest to take de relationship one step further.
hope i've been of help(:gd luck!
2007-03-24 03:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Focus your attention on someone else and see how she acts towards you then. If she does what she has said then all she wants to be is friends.
2007-03-31 15:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it as friends or else go out with another girl and see if she wants you then..I think she treats you like a doormat.....toughen up..no woman likes a man they can walk all over.
2007-03-31 07:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude im in the same boat as you....its a real ***** aint it? just show her your better than anyone else she can imagine and just right for her. try to get her to talk to you alot now thats the mistake i made. prove to her your the one for her and dont treat her like crap. also apologize for anything you said or did if you got mad at her. send her videos of songs and stuff.
2007-03-24 02:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by m1carbine44 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
doesnt always work unless u guys were good friends when u guys were to gether
2007-03-24 02:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋