Is this the way i'll have to live?? - i really can't handle the way my life is going..?

Question

im only young n i don't know why life is like this.
I have older brothers that never leave me alone and make me feel bad all the time, my parents i try to ignore because they don't help and i don't like school because i fink my friends are 2 faced.. everything has gone wrong im confused and don't know what to do.. i considered talking to a school counsellor but chickened out... any answers will help alot!!!! what am i supposed to do?

i am thirteen years old

Answer 1

It will be OK!! How old are you? I think everyone goes through that stage in life where they don't care to talk to there parents or they think there parents are messing up there lives! And the brothers when they start picking on you just look at them and say I love you with a big smile. Or get some dirt on them like when they come home after curfew and your parents didn't find out! Use that against them. It does sound like you need to talk to someone. Keep a journal and write your feelings down if you don't have someone to talk to.
I hope this helped and remember everything will be all right.

Answer 2

First of all...chill. Pretty much everyone feels like that at your age. However sometime there are problems that make it all feel a lot worse.
For example at your age I was suffering the consequences of sexual abuse, stuck in an isolated area, with a psychopathic father and a mother who didn't love me. I had to do homeschooling, only 15 other people lived where I lived and they were all at least 20 years older than me. I had no friends...add urberty to that and it was hell but hey Im still here. Because in the space of just a few years EVERYTHING can change. I live somewhere else now with people who love me.
Purberty changes so much, both in mind and body. You go from being a kid to an adult so quickly your head is spinning. You have added responiblities, you have this new body you dont feel at home in, your likes and dislikes go through huge changes and you start to see things ver differently...and sometimes you wont like what you see.
Maybe your friends arent the peole you need in your life. As I said, you change at this time in your life and maybe they have changed into people you dot like.
Or maybe your are just confused. Sit down and write a list of all the times they have helped you out or been there for you, and then a list of all the times they have wronged you and realistically how serious it was.
Try making a few new friends.
And its freakin hard to do but GO to the counsellor...they do this everyday...they know how to help and put everything into perspective. Talking to someone outside of my life really helped.
Just remember...this is only a phase. Although the "here and now" seems to be all there is, the future will be better.
Hang in there pal...

Answer 3

Everyone feels this way sometimes. Just remember that life won't always be that way. Try talking to your parents, brothers, friends or a counselor, whoever you feel most comfortabe with. If this feeling is persistant, you may be depressed. It is natural to feel overwhelmed and lost at times, but if you feel this way all of the time, you might benefit from conselling or medical advice.

Don't feel alone. Most people do feel like this at times in their life. You would be surprised at how many suposedly well adjusted people get depressed.

Don't give up on how great life can be. Sometimes people fail to meet up to your expectations, but forgive them because they are only human. Find something that makes you really happy and do it. Try a new sport or join a club at school. It might be a great way to meet some new friends and find a place where you feel you belong.

Growing up is just a process of finding out what works and what doesn't. This is normal and you will learn to make yourself happy even though life isn't perfect.

But I really would encourage you to talk to someone. School counselors are not as scary as they seem. They are there to help you and you are not alone.

Answer 4

I feel your pain. I too had been picked on in school. Take up a hobby or sport that you like and try to make friends. You are too shy and scared right now. I promise you if you find something to take up your time you will feel much much better. In the meantime take 2 tbls. apple cider vinegar in a glass of water 2-3 x day to combat your depression. Tell yourself before sleeping that you DO have good friends. What we think is what we bring into our life. Laugh and the world laughs with you; cry and you cry alone. So start smiling in the mirror at yourself and then tell yourself how wonderful, smart and funny you are. Read a book on self-improvement. I am thinking of you. Read the bible (I know boring), but if you read Proverbs you will get an understanding of who and what you are and will become.

Answer 5

Well, I'm an older brother so I can't say I know what its like on your end, but what I *can* say is that I make my brother feel like crap all the time, doesn't mean I harbor bad emotions towards him. You might say "love" him, but I don't wanna admit that...

Second thing: You might try some sort of hobby. I used to enjoy Warhammer for a while, but then my local store closed so... That ended that. World of Warcraft is fun and good in smallish doses- make sure that it revolves around your life, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. I've seen some addicts, but I've also seen people who refuse to play because of addicts. Its just about having fun, geeze.

Anyways, as for life sucking, people have their highs and lows. Just today my car essentially broke down and resisted attempts to fix it, I got two essays to do due on monday, and I had someone essentially steal money from me right from under my nose. I'm hating life. But thats just now, you have to keep your eyes on the future. Otherwise your grades slip as you spend time "enjoying" yourself and wind up being the guy behind the speaker box at your local burger king for the rest of your life. Old, you already know, bla bla I know, but its true.

Also, finding a true friend or friends who aren't two faced would do you good. And a "significant other" would help to. In my case, that'd be a girlfriend. Don't have one yet but I got lots of friendly girls, if not girlie friends. Mm, good chiasmus there. Finding someone nice who you can talk to about stuff is good. :)

Answer 6

Well it is ok to chicken out sometimes, but sooner or later you need to deal with what ever is bothering you. Now you parents should be having your older brothers behave and leave you along, i would say that they may need help too, maybe the who family does. You have low self-esteem from your brothers, friends, and even your parents, you really need to work on that, then once you get that going good, then you will find that your brothers and friends, and family, can not bother you anymore. Yes i would say go and seek some therapy, i really do not know if you should go to the school one, or one in another place, but i do know that you are needing the help, and it is better to get this done now, and taken care of then to live with it all of your life. Yes there is a life out there for you, and it could be a very fun, loving filled life for you. I think we all feel like we can not go on, but something inside of us keeps us going anyway, even if we do not feel like it anyway. So please go and see a therapist, maybe they can get rest of your family into therapy too, cause the whole family sound disfunctional .

Answer 7

I can imagine how you feel. You feel like everyone is against
you. Dropping out of school isn't going to help the situation.
There are ignorant people every where you go. One day
you will find someone that you can trust, or talk to, but keeping things to yourself isn't going to help. Talk to
your counselor for some advice. There are also groups that
have people around your age, that are going through the very
same problems. Good Luck.

Answer 8

ok i know exactly what u feel i was in the very same position i a m now 22 but believe me u also have the problem in you life. there is but one choice . that is to get ahead of all the people around you. like my brother all the time used to pressure on me but i made my mind an d left my country an d came to us a and now i earn na d live much bette r than him na d h e even asks me of money very often goona be good

Answer 9

well that is what siblings do mine did too. as parents it is hard to remember what it felt like being a teen and they are not too sure what to do for you, it is a passage we all have to go through. school is some of the hardest times of our lives, and sometimes people that we think our, our friends really are not and that when they are being 2 faced it is because of their own insecurities and they are just trying to be liked or deflect attention away from them. i know it is hard being a teen or preteen, your brain is changing for adulthood and the chemistry and hormone levels are going crazy, and this would make anyone feel like crap, plus every kid in that school is going through the same thing and they all react in different ways to this, so keep your chin up and i promise things will get better for you.

Answer 10

the only thing you need to know:life is crule,you could escape from school escape from your brothers,but you will never be able to escape from all of the people in world
you say your friend is 2 faces,then tell your selfthat:it is the real humanbeing
the principle is:you couldn't expect a beast to be a kind hearted man right