GUYS>>> If a grown woman is upset to the point she cried?

Question

and you are her very good friend?
Who you ask her later if she was better or okay~~~~ or would you take the attitude that "she's a big girl" and she doesn't need your compassion?

Answer 1

I think I'd probably just let her know that I'm willing to listen. That's usually the most important thing. Women rarely really want a man's advice (present company excepted). They just want somebody who will listen, and who will show that he cares.

I once had a girlfriend who came to me with her problems. I'd listen, evaluate and formulate a plan to solve the problems. Being a dense clod, I didn't notice that my suggestions were being met with silence and on each occasion she was getting a little bit more uptight. She finally let me have it with both barrels! "You don't always have to come up with solutions!!!" I was an engineer at the time, and it was second nature to find solutions to problems. Just habit.

Anyway, rather then asking outright if a female friend is "OK", I'd probably kinda just watch and evaluate the situation. Something that's true of both men and women is that when they're emotionally hurting, it's sometimes making things worse to ask if they're OK. It kind of rubs salt into the wound, for some people. You have to try to figure out what's appropriate for the particular person and the particular situation.

I have a different female friend (just to illustrate the last point) who is fiercely independent. She DOES get hurt, on occasion, and she DOES cry. The safest bet in her case is to look the other way because she becomes angry when she sees me noticing the fact that she really is vulnerable and human. She wants the world to think she has cast iron cojones, even if that's anatomically inappropriate.

I guess I'm saying, play it by ear.

Answer 2

Give her some space, but also let her know that your there for her, a sholder to cry on. It may seem like she needs some space, but if you moved away then she might realise that she wanted you there, and then if you aren't then she might get lonley and maybe even more upset.

Answer 3

that's what friends are for. just let her be alone then be with her when she need your advice or favour. email me if u really need my help.

Answer 4

I would ask if she was ok or not.