why do people take small kids out in public? they cry, whine and...?

Question

throw tantrums???? my child never did that as a kid, not to mention all these brats with potty mouths! my son did that once and he got a soap bar in his mouth! THAT WAS THE LAST TIME HE CURSED, HE IS NOW 19!

i'M sure alot of you weak mamas will talk smack, that's ok. TRUST ME, YOUR TIME OUT CRUD DOES NOT WORK!!!

Answer 1

Hear hear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good point, I am constantly having to “yell” at the neighborhood kids that are out in the street cursing and such!! I have a 2 year old and I do NOT want to hear those words out of her mouth!!! Now personally I do use time-outs from time to time along with spankings (hand spankings if she does something with her hands i.e. hitting, foot spankings if she does something with her feat i.e. kicking, and of course regular old spankings) but I don’t really have to spank her much anymore, started about 4 months ago with real discipline, because she has learned the proper way to act and she knows better, yes she still gets into trouble but she is not the kid down the street screaming “throw me the f*cking ball”

Answer 2

You really believe that your 19 year old doesn't cuss? Come on now, you can't be that gullible. And people take their small kids into pubic because they have a life, they cant just stay locked up because their kid throws a tantrum. As for the bar of soap, that is called abuse. Time out does work if you handle it correctly, I have a feeling that maybe you do not handle it correctly. No, you cannot put them in a room full of toys for time out. I think for the most part, children act how they are raised and with what they see. If the parents or a sibling cusses all the time, so will the child. I was in a store the other day and these kids 7 -9 years or so, were saying to each other, I just farted, hey you smell me, I just farted- laughing and loud. I thought it was disgusting! I looked at the parents and they paid no attention at all to what the kids were saying, I am sure they are used to it- that is the problem, the parents that did not bother to tell their kids not to talk like that. A child isnt born talking that way.

Answer 3

Well, people take their small children out in public because they have every right to -- no one should be relegated to the status of prisoner in their own home by virtue of the fact that they have young children. And children, no matter how well behaved overall, will sometimes cry and sometime whine and sometimes be very annoying to third parties (especially third parties who aren't parents themselves).

THAT said, I agree that there are a lot of children who are about as far from "well behaved" as possible, and I agree that it usually has to do with the parenting. Often you'll see a parent out with a child, the child is acting out, and the parent just...doesn't react. At all. And acts as if it's perfectly acceptable for the child to be screaming in the middle of grocery aisle or running wild in a restaurant. Or whatever.

THAT being said, however, it's important to remember that we have absolutely no idea (we really don't) what was going on, say, five minutes before we entered the room, or what the "story" is behind the scenes.

And now, THAT being said....I still firmly believe that much of this nonsense with ill behaved children is a reflection of really bad parenting. Children need to learn limits and boundaries -- no one knows that stuff inherently, and it is the job of a parent to teach those things. Children are more secure that way, and happier, incidentally. That doesn't mean stifling your kid's creativity or discouraging exploration, play, etc. And, in my opinion, it doesn't mean washing your kid's mouth out with soap. And, contrary to the general assertion you made: it absolutely CAN be achieved with methods like time-out.

What I think we all fail to realize -- not just with child rearing but with just about everything -- is that this is not a one-size-fits-all world. Time outs work wonderfully for *some* children and for *some* parents. Not all kids respond well to it, and not all parents, apparently, know how to use it (but when it is used correctly I believe the majority of children DO respond well to it -- the problem, when there is one, is often that the parents are not consistent, or that the child's other caregivers aren't following through with the same method of discipline).

That your son hasn't cursed (in front of you) since he was a kid is nice. Personally, I'm far less concerned about the use of swears than I am about other things, but that's me. But washing a child's mouth out with soap isn't for everyone. And the use of time outs doesn't make anyone a "weak mama" -- some parents who use it are undoubtedly not great parents, and others are.

Answer 4

I take mine out in public because they don't act like that if they did they would never get out of the house. The problem with the potty mouths come from parents that have potty mouths most of the people having kids today are to young to be having them and think it is cute for their kids to cuss.

And it is bad to even yell at your kids now much less swat their little rear ends.

God forbid you correct someone Else's child now the world will end. You are just supposed to talk to them. A little girl stayed the night with my daughter and let me tell you I thought the devil done walked through the door. she was rude kept talking about her body things she didn't have any how and before long she had broken my sons toys, was snooping through my bed room in the medicine cabinet and when she decided she was gonna duct tape my eight year old well it hit the fan. I had to laugh when I told the mom what had happened and she actually got mad at me, and began to comfort her poor little angel I bout died right there.

I'm with you my oldest is twenty in fact almost 21 still will not cuss around me and the other 2 are 10 and 8 They are very well behaved well mannered kids and they have all gotten yelled at and their but busted as needed.

Answer 5

So your son NEVER threw a tantrum? Well, then I guess your lucky. But just because someone might not be blessed with a perfect child doesn't mean they should keep their kid secluded in the house because people like you don't want to deal with it. I was lucky, and my son was usually good in the stores, and still is. But even if he was the type to throw tantrums, I would still bring him out to the store, and wherever I wanted to take him. My life isn't going to revolve around other people and what they think or may not want to hear. And I think it's pretty "weak" to feel the need to put soap in your child's mouth. If that's the only way you could find to discipline your kid, then I feel bad for you. I know plenty of parents who have raised well adjusted kids without abusing them.

Answer 6

OH LORD! Enough of this "hitting your child is abuse" crap! I was never put in time outs, neither were my brother and sister. We turned out just fine! None have been in jail and we don't swear in front of the parents either (I'm almost 21 and I still feel odd swearing around my parents). My mother ran the show and we knew not to mess with her.
If you truly insist on not hitting your child, make sure the time out is NOT in their room (all the toys in the world to play with there), but somewhere in a corner. They just have the wall to face and nothing else, so they will get bored, realize it's not fun and not wanna act up again. Also, if they try to get out of it, threaten to add on extra minutes AND STICK TO IT. YOU ARE THE PARENT, NOT THEM!
Why do you think there are brats nowadays? Parents stick their kids in front of the TV and expect that to teach them. What happened to good old parenting?

Answer 7

Time out does work you just have to have a lot of patients. Time out usually works better if you started that from the get go. What else I do find that works is taking something away from my kid that is important to them 1st time I keep it for a week 2nd time I keep if for a month, 3rd time it's 6 months, the is no 4th time I usually throw it in the trash. This second one work for my middle one who is hard headed. Then grounding. This works well for my kids because they love to socialize and be with people. Now this one works best on my oldest even those she is only 9, she needs her "people time" as she calls it. Grounding her from the phone is her worst nightmare.

Answer 8

I don't have small children but, if I had let's say a baby and he/she starts crying in public what am I suppose to tell the baby shut up. Maybe the person doesn't trust anyone enough to leave the child with them. Or can't afford a babysitter every time they need to go to the market. It's their child they can and should take them where ever they see fit.

Answer 9

Actually, time outs do work if done properly. And it's a little more humane than putting chemicals in your child's mouth. As to why people take their kids out in public, it is to acclimate them to society. Imagine the child that is exposed to other people after spending 10 years locked up at home. That kid would need a lot of therapy.

Answer 10

I take my kids out all the time and have no problem from them. They are taught to behave in public as well as at home. I don't think that people that have kids that whine and throw fits should be kept at home but I think they should teach their kids to behave. I believe in spanking but it is a last resort for us. I do timeouts and take things from them. Sometimes all kids will understand is a tap on the butt.


As far as you stopping you 19y/o from cussing please. He is 19 do you really think you know everything he does? If you think you do then you live in a fanasty world.