Say an older, not very good looking man is sending you flowers at work, and is also tipping you well each time he comes in, but you have a boyfriend that works at the same place you do, and you guys have been together for about 2 years. In a situation like this, your boyfriend gets upset and asks you to tell him to leave you alone, even though the older man knows that you have a boyfriend and who the guy is. But your boyfriend never spends money on you or buys you flowers. Do you do what your you boyfriend asks or keep accepting flowers and generous tips? It is always nice to be appreciated...
2007-03-23 18:39:32 · 10 answers · asked by hpage 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would tell the guy not to give you flowers because it's awkward at work. The fat tips are fine! You can't help it if some dude does that where you work. Your boyfriend should know that and maybe the other guy knows this will irk your boyfriend to the point of throwing a scene or something. Just both of you maintain a cool front.
2007-03-23 18:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Though it is often said that you cant blame a man for trying, i think you should tell this olderman to get a move on. he knows that you arte involved and with whom you are involved , yet he persists but to be frank, he may just have an itch that he wants you to scratch. However, as soon as you do, the tips and flowers and all the goodies will cease. Dont accept the tips he offers you, you man is crazy to tell you to continue doing so. There is more to life than material things like for example, your self-respect.
2007-03-24 02:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you have got a tricky situation going on. Well a few of us have been there... you have to fix this before there is damage done to any of you. You need to explain to the generous man the situation that has generated from his gift giving. Let him know honestly and nicely. He will understand if he truely does "appreciate" you and if he gets mad then his intentions wasn't so "sweet. The deal with your bf, maybe you should let him know how you feel about the gifts of "appreciation" Get him something (gift) to show him how. And he may or may not catch on. Whether he does or not you still shouldn't except gifts from other men..(how would you feel in his shoes?) out of respect for his feelings. I understand why he is upset and the sacrafice of a strangers gift is nothing for the sake of love. Hope this helps you out.
2007-03-24 01:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Alley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends, women don't need money spent on them they need love..if u love him and he loves u then tell him to leave u alone but if u think time is up with him then break it off or u cud just tell ur bf to be romantic to u tell him u don't like the guy but u like the attention and flowers and thoughts and the romantic side of it then maybe he will change and start appreciating u more
2007-03-24 01:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would still accept the flowers and tips because it's nice to get things sometimes. It makes you feel good. Just re-assure your boyfriend that he has nothing to worry about and he'll be ok eventually.
2007-03-24 01:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would suggest you talk to your boyfriend. Angering him isn't going to make him suddenly want to give you flowers. Why don't you just tell him that you enjoy the attention and wish he would do the same thing from time to time, and just be honest. If you can't be honest with him you need to dump him because no relationship can last without it.
2007-03-24 01:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by Fi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a b/f for 2 years your working and he doesnt give you flowers-sounds to me like you got a guy that wants a friend with free benifits. even when I lived in sin I had respect in giving flowers-I prayed one day-"Jesus I am sorry for my sins, come into my heart and help me, be my friend, amen
Jesus said to do this in Revelation 3 verses 19&20 now he is my savior and best friend, and I dont look for a friend with benifits -i honor my g/f to marry, we did break up but there was no soul tie to destroy my relationship with Jesus-praying for you, be the true princess and best wishes too
2007-03-24 02:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. Tell your boyfriend that you wouldn't even want this other guys attention if he was giving you the attention you deserve, and that if he wants you to cut off this other guy, then he'll have to start being more romantic to you.
2007-03-24 02:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by Canadian Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
accept flowers and keep asking your boyfriend why he never buys you things.
2007-03-24 01:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she chose to have boyfriend like that ,that's on her.but that's disrespect to that man.meaning her boyfriend.you know better.you know what your doing.
2007-03-24 02:07:40 · answer #10 · answered by pancakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋