I just found out I'm pregnant as of 03/23/07, and the father was a bad decision ("friend w. benefits"). And he's leaving for the navy on April 8th. What should I do or say ???? advice please
2007-03-23 18:31:01 · 11 answers · asked by tricia t 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
tell him before he leaves and tell him you are not looking for a relationship with him but ask him if he is going to be in the babys life scence it is his child at least give him the option to be the dad the baby is going to need , this will let you know where you stand with the baby and let him know that you dont really want nothing more than friendship out of him just because you got pregnet
2007-03-23 18:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by family fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
chat with him and say the Benefit part got a bit tighter.. Its a tuff question because on the one hand if you tell him before he goes it could effect his job if its in a negitive lite for him where as on the other hand if you don't tell him you are risking him getting pissed at you for not telling him. Either way I would tell him before the baby is born that way he can have time for the idea to sink in and if he decides to do the stand up thing he can become involved in the baby's life from the start. Good luck...
2007-03-23 19:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by candy w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you planning on having the baby? do you want to raise the child yourself or have you considered adoption?are you sure 100% that he is the father?if you are not having an abortion or plan on keeping the kid you should tell him but if i were him i would demand a paternity test.you should never have sex with someone you really would not want to have a child with because it does happen, i know because it happened to someone i know very well the result a 9 year old daughter he cant stand and never wanted and a wothless mother who had all 4 of her kids taken away by welfare for neglect and abuse.good luck.
2007-03-23 18:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I t really depends on how close you are as friends! Would he be happy or would he feel like his world collapsed? If you think he would take it badly now would not be the time to tell him! He has alot to deal with now with go to the navy! You will have to tell him eventually after he and the baby have a right to know each other!
2007-03-23 18:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by fatbrat64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at the very least it will teach him that there's no such thing as a free lunch. Let him be involved in the child's life if he wants to be, but make sure you get the right amount of child support on the nail from day one. Your child has a right to that money. If he won't pay, the navy will dock his wages.
2007-03-23 23:23:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you tell him spring it to him in a public place if you think he'll make a seen and do it in private if you think he can hadle it, be honest tell him everything especially what your planning, it's better to remain friends and have him as an allie and not an enemy, I suggest you try to stay on the terms of being good friend because anything more as of now can get to complicated in a pregnacy. Congratulations . Also dust and shake those haters off cause boo you got to do what's right for you and your baby, ta hell with everybody else, bunk them. Love yourself girl.
2007-03-23 19:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING my dear, You chose to lay in bed with someone who really doesnt give a rip about you so why should it matter at this point. If you didnt care about having sex with a friend with benefits. Obviously you were not thinking about a potential pregnancy S.T.D. etc. Please do the right thing and give the child up for adoption. It deserves to have a mother and father who actually care about him or her.
2007-03-23 19:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by lafresa cremosa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
merely take a seat and have a frank verbal replace with him. tell him what you assume from him if something and permit him understand what you sense on the 2nd. he's likely to be freaked out slightly, yet permit him make an effort to soak up. besides the fact that in case you do not determine on a extreme relationship there are new advantages in touch which includes him being the daddy of the toddler and criminal help in case you want that from him and pursue it legally. you're the two adults so which you may desire to be waiting to get by using this verbal replace with honesty and decorum. deliver the babies out with a babysitter for the night and take a seat over dinner in case you could to talk this over. reliable success.
2016-11-28 02:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to get some time alone with eachother, sit down and have a calm talk with him. Just explain to him about whats happened the past few days/weeks say it slowly so he can have time to react as u explain it
2007-03-23 18:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry, but the whole "friends w/benefits" thing just pisses me off. Any girl that would go for that, ....GGGRR. isn't that what it is? Friends with no ties, no responsibilities? And now you expect him to think he should? You went into it, babe. It's a benefit for the guys, NOT the girls. Go ahead and tell him, but don't expect much, HE went into it thinking he would just have fun and no responsibility later.
2007-03-23 18:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by b_friskey 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋