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Well, i'm so in love with my best friend. and i recently found out he feels the same way. He doesnt know that i know he likes me. I guess he's told his friends that he wants to be with me but he's afraid of the whole friendship thing. he doesnt want to mess our friendship up. he says he's very confused on wat he wants to do. But i so want to give it a chance with this guy. any advice???

2007-03-23 18:26:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I was kind of going though the same thing. I liked my best friend for about a year or so and we've been friends since 4 years old. I came to the realization that I knew it wouldn't work for various reasons, and it wasn't worth taking the chance with us.

On the other hand, I know of some people that first started out as friends, and have been together for years now; one being since freshman year in h.s and are now sophomores in college and got married last year, so it's just like any other relastionship.

It usually is a good thing to be friends first to get to know one another, but that's what dating is in my opinion. Just don't rush anything and make sure you're both on the same page. Check out some of my past questions that I'ved asked and answered in which are similar.

Good luck.

2007-03-23 18:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 4 · 0 1

It is perfectly okay to date your best friend. That's where it all begins anyway. It's also perfect to know that your feelings are the same, there is no other way. Think about it, what are you going to do? Stay best friends and hide feelings that should be there, you know it feels right because the timing is right. You know what you need to know, and all you have to do is go for it! If you get worried that you guys might break up and you guys won't be as close friends as you were, take it slow in the beginning, and don't rush so things don't get weird. But if everything is the way it should be and you guys are okay with rushing because you know each other from head to toe, go for it. If things don't work out, make your relationship something to laugh about later on. Stay best friends, so IF it doesn't work out, and you guys are 40 years old, you can say "HAHA, remember that time we went out" and you guys are just laughing, things will be cool. Good Luck! :D

2007-03-23 18:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by ANGIE 2 · 0 1

I am going through the same thing as you. I Think that if you really like him enough to make you want to change the Friend- Ship to a Relationship I Think that you should YOu have so much in common and he likes you and obvoiuosly u like him . Dont mean to be all Therapist but If You and him are truely Good Friends you would stay friends any way right?

2007-03-23 18:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Gallant_Prince15 1 · 0 1

First of all if your friend is not sure, don't start anything with him yet because odds r, that it will not work. When a person is unsure of whether or not they feel something for you, they r confused. You seem confident about your emotions for him but the way you describe his, they r not so good. If in the end he's positively sure of what he feels then why not give it shot, they say that the best relationships r the ones that come from best friends. For now give him sometime, don't rush into anything if he's not sure of what he wants because the relationship will fail.

2007-03-23 18:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by grissy 3 · 0 2

You always run the risk of losing the friendship if you date a friend. However, you have stated that he is as romantically interested in you as you are in him and that sounds like the basis for a true life long love. Most successful love affairs require that you become friends first and then let all that gooey, mushy stuff just fall into place. Have fun!!!

2007-03-23 18:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by stevieray 4 · 0 1

Best friends make the best relationships because there's so much more to discover about each other and you already have stuff in common. Go for it!

2007-03-23 18:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by nancydeanna 6 · 0 1

i am!! its awesome! there's no awkward-ness at the start, because you already know what they're like. just in case things don't work out, you could end up losing them as a friend, so be careful!!!

2007-03-24 04:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by lexie 5 · 0 1

here's the thing: it's okay to date your best friend if he wants to date you as well. it has to be mutual.

2007-03-23 18:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by cara_hermosa 2 · 0 2

you have one life to live. Live the way you want it.

2007-03-23 18:29:47 · answer #9 · answered by PROUD TO BE A LIBERAL TEEN! 4 · 0 2

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