No Sex....?

Question

So me and my gf are both young (18) and we been dating for close to 2 years and i love her and everything in are relationship is good but we hardy have sex. When we first started having it we had it a lot and foreplay a lot but now we have it maybe 3-4 in bout 2 months and she never wants to do anything leading up to it and i cant really ask her wat is wrong cuz when i do she just accuses me of just wanting sex i do talk bout it a lot and try to get her to but she just doesn't ever talk bout it or anything at all its really annoy me because she well say not tonite Friday i promise, come Friday shes sleepy or she says that i bugged her to much about it thought out the day. just makes me frustrated be cuz she never tells me wat she likes she tells me i need to find out for my self but not on a other night. and i think that walkin away because of this would be shallow but it really frustrates me that when i comes to sex we have no communication or wat we say never really happed

We don't live together or anything ether we only really get to spend time with each other 2-3days a week because of school and work i guess i just don't wanna waste the few days we have together laying on a couch sleeping or watching tv for hours.

Answer 1

Okay, this is going to sound ****** up...BUT, consider it for a moment. Act like it's not even important to you. Then, see how long SHE can last without you making sexual advances of any kind. Soon, she will start to think she is undesirable to you, and she'll start stepping it up a little (we hope.) Women like sex to be spontaneous and in the heat of the moment. Sex dates are cool too, but with the right girl--not every girl is down with scheduled sex appointments. I think she just misses the spontaneity. Im sure in the beginning, you can tell by the way you looked at eachother that it was time to do the deed. So to sum up: Act like sex is unimportant. She'll think that you took the hint from all those times she shot you down. However, she'll be waiting for it to happen again. But when that doens't happen for a while, she starts to wonder, "Am I not that attractive anymore? Is he cheating? (By the way, DON"T CHEAT, they'll find out. They always do. ****.. seriously they do haha) They watch too many movies like "The Notebook" and other nauseating flicks that create this fantasy for them that is completely unrealistic, but whatver, we still have to deliver.... Anyways--that's all I got. Good luck w/ this thing man. P.S. - if you can make her have multiple orgasms, she won't act like this.

Answer 2

I'm going to be blunt here so, please forgive me if I hurt your feelings. I'm not trying to. Either your girlfriend doesn't like sex in general or she doesn't like having sex with you. That's pretty much the only two options here. It's also possible that she's having sex with someone else but, that's sort of a long shot and I don't know all the details so, I won't go there.

She's not talking about it and you're not getting what you want. It wouldn't be shallow if you walked away. Sex isn't everything in a relationship but, it is part of it. Try talking to her again without backing her into a corner. Explain to her that you like sex and you want it with her. Ask her why she doesn't and if it has to do with you or the way she feels about you.

If she still won't answer you or explain her actions, I really don't see you being the bad guy by dumping her. Relationships are about compromise. You're unhappy and she's not even telling you why she's not doing anything with you anymore. Something is wrong there. Before you waste anymore time with her, let her know where you stand and what you'd like to change. If she can't be bothered with fixing what's wrong, it's time to move on. That is fair to both of you and it's not shallow of you to move on to someone who is interested in you sexually. I'm a woman and I'm saying this so, you have nothing to worry about. You're not going to be seen as a shallow, sex obsessed guy for dropping her over this. It runs deeper than the no sex thing. It has to do with her not holding up her end of the relationship, so to speak.

Answer 3

You are both young. You don't have to rush things. Take your time. I know it's frustrating for you because you are a young man and you need it more then she does obviously. Get yourself a nice porn and do what you have to do when she don't want it. Either that or find someone more sexually compatable with you and someone that will fit your needs. However, you love her so you'll wait I guess. The hand is the best answer. I'm not being mean here or trying to upset you just giving some advice. Good Luck

Answer 4

honestly, if she wont even talk about the issue with you then you should walk away and move on. if she loved you as much as you love her then she would at least try to talk about it or tell you what she likes. i'm sorry to say it but i think she's not interested any more, i think she may have someone on the side, (but don't take my word for it cuz i could be seriosly wrong about the someone on the side thing) i really hate to say that, but that's how i acted when i was unhappy with my ex-husband in more areas than the bedroom.

Answer 5

You are both too young to be having sex. I know that is not what you want to hear. But are you ready for the consequences of sex which could be a pregnancy or an abortion? I suspect that your girlfriend knows that she is not really for this 'heavy' of a relationship and you should quit putting the pressure on her. That is what you will do if you really love her. Deep down you know what is right. Quit thinking between you legs and use your brain. Be a man about it.

Answer 6

She sounds like a bit of a dud. If you want more sex you have to find someone else with more of a sex drive.

Tell her "Hell yes, all I want is sex, I'm flipping 18 years old!!!!!".

Answer 7

WOW! im in the same EXACT PERDICUMENT! I JUST POSTED THE SAME QUESTION LIKE A COUPLE HOURS AGO. BUT I LOVE MY GIRL TOO, BUT WONEN HAVE TO REALIZE THAT WE ARE MEN AND WE HAVE NEEDS TOO! WE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 YEARS TOO. I THINK WE SHOULD LEAVE EM MAN!

Answer 8

this girl is trying to hold on to her virginity without hurting her feelings and you should respect that