my mom favors my lil sis over me & ive felt this for years now how can i tell her how i feel? she doesnt understand how her favortism hurts me! im adopted and the oldest and what made things much worse tonight was that she is taking my little sister to paris this summer without me! she didnt even ask me if i wanted to go and doesnt want me to go! my sister is 11 and im 19 i dont know how or what to do to make her see how she makes me feel i feel i tried tonight and my mom just wouldnt listen i just dont know what to do anymore...
2007-03-23 18:21:30 · 7 answers · asked by Lilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do what I did! Be daddy's girl!!! My sisters are so jealous of me cause they could never break thru his John Wayne type personality. I had to be a tom boy, but daddy always had the cash and he was way more fun than my mom and my girlie sisters.
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2007-03-23 18:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by LUCY 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a parent oc children that always say I favor the other one, I think sometimes it's in perception, especially with that kind of age difference. Different things are expected of each of you and you are treated differently, but I think that is perfectly normal. Do you want to be treated like an 11 year old? At 19 are you in school? What are you doing with your life? When my mom goes on vacation I'm not invited either, because I am an adult. I think maybe you should try looking at the situation as one too and you may see it's not all unfair, just you.
2007-03-24 01:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by dana j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be an adult about it. I am the youngest and my older sister feels I have always got the favortism. Face it, as parents get more kids they learn from the first ones. No one in any order first to last child will get the same treatment. You were not born with a manual, parents have to learn. It is childish to be jealious and compete for attension. So what, your going to grow up stronger. Stop whining and find your own I dentity and love what ever level of affection or love you get from your parents. Some kids dont even get the luxury of having parents who care, let alone worry over who gets to be the favorite.
If you want to be a baby and get treated like one, then worry about who gets the most attension just like any other 3 year old.....
2007-03-24 01:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your younger sister adopted as well? This is actually a very common situation if she is. Just as there is a dynamic to birth order, there is a dynamic to adoption order as well. Lots of times the younger adoptee becomes the favored one for a number of reasons.
In any event, no matter if your younger sister is adopted or her biological child, if you've explained to your mother in a way of "When you do (whatever), it makes me feel (how you feel)" and she's not responsive, then I'm sorry there is nothing you really can do, except adopt (haha) the attitude that this is HER loss, not yours. Then start putting money aside to go to Paris on your own!
2007-03-24 03:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww honey... im so sorry. maybe u should really just tell your mom. i mean TELL her as in even if it means yelling. this is not a good situation. maybe u should just find youre acceptance somewhere else. my dad left me when i was young and i have always wanted a relationship with him but after a while i just had to let that fantasy go because i will never happen. so i try to forget, every once in a while i find myself crying about it. jst gotta keep strong and dont let getting acceptance get in the way of you having a good life. i feel for you. hope you will see better days.
2007-03-24 01:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by tomi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont get jealous let mom what she wants, u do ur duty as a daugther , study well and get a fine job so , that u can get what u want even u can go to abroad or go to paris too without any 1 help do ur own is more happy than any thing
2007-03-24 01:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I emphatise with you, my parents favour my cousin because she is smarter.
2007-03-24 01:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by yewny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋