I am a successful 25 year old graphic designer who is dating a girl who is 26. Due to a combination of being laid off and relatively recently finishing college she doesn't have enough money to live on her own, so she lives with her Dad. Her Dad has rules in place for her as if she was a teenager. She's a good little Christian girl. She's being treated as if she were 16 years old. She knows it's not right, but doesn't want to disrespect him. That's what I'm having trouble with. I don't want to disrespect him either. Even though I don't agree with his rules, I respect her, which means respecting his rules. I don't know what to do. Where do I draw the line? She means a lot to me and I will wait if in the long run, everything will work out, but how long is that? How long should I be patient?
2007-03-23 18:13:12 · 6 answers · asked by Nate J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I'm writing from the perspective of another good little girl, with an overprotective father.
The fact that you respect her enough to respect someone she loves, shows how much you care about her. Good for you!
However, if I were in her position, I would be hoping that you'd stay with me.
Part of getting closer to someone, in such a significant way, is the willingness to stay for the long haul, even when it might seem difficult, and especially when it's hard.
To answer your questions, the line will probably be drawn when she is feeling personally affected and hurt by her father's protection. Remember, it might seem unfair to you, but she's the one who lives day-in, day-out with the man. I know it's difficult, and frustrating, and unfair, but please, just be patient. She'll know when the line should be drawn, and when she's exasperated, that's when it's too much. The line can be drawn when she can get back on her feet. The unfortunate thing about the long run is that you never know for sure when it will end. Talk to her, communicate with her, let her know how you feel. Stick it out, and just stay there with her. One of the MOST important things for her right now is for her to know that you're there, and in the midst of everything changing violently, to have you staying there, steady and strong. She needs more attention, just for this time. And for your last question, you should be patient as long as she needs you to. It might seem like I'm biased toward your girlfriend, and that I'm not being fair to you, but truly, she needs you. Now more than ever, and she needs you to do one of the greatest things a person can do : understand.
2007-03-23 18:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by Hillary B 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 08:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you r doing what's right dude. Respecting her and her dad's decisions. If you truely loves her, you can wait forever. Everything has it's own right time and right place. Oneday everythings going to be alright. Just dont think of anything that could mess up your beautiful relationship. Goodluck!
2007-03-23 18:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by dale 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not good try to explain her that there is a life for her & not only her father is her world! all the best for ur future!
2007-03-23 18:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe until she decides to do something about her dad's rules.
2007-03-23 18:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to move in with u.
2007-03-23 18:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋