I've been friends with a guy for going on three years. We met over the internet and he recently moved to my area. For the first month we were together non stop. He had previously told me that he met someone else who lived here. He started spending time with her and has stopped spending time with me. I knew we weren't going to have a romantic relationship but now he has ended our friendship and I can't stop thinking about him. He was one of my closest friends. We talked almost every night, I told him things that I couldn't tell my other friends. I miss him so much. I don't know what to do. I'm heart broken on so many different levels. Someone please help me. I need some advice. Do I just let him go or do I fight to get his friendship back?
2007-03-23 18:05:34 · 5 answers · asked by Sunshine B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he told you the friendship is over that's one thing , but if he just started not stopping by after he got into this relationship I would give him a call. Guys can be clueless and somtimes they go without seeing thier friends for a while exspeically when they start a new relationship. Most guys don't care but when they are friends with girls they tend to forget that we are not like their guy friends lol.
2007-03-23 18:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by blue_dragoness5695 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is really that much of a friend, you wouldn't be having this question.. He would know how you feel and be there for you.... There's a very distinct chance that if you talk to him and he is not psychic (which i feel if he's really that close of a friend to you then he should be) and doesn't realize what he is doing, after you tell him things should get relatively closer to the way they used to be... But if yall weren't in a romantic relationship, then why not let him have his girlfriend and come see you when he needs a shoulder??
2007-03-23 18:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by babyangeleyez17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm so sorry he's treating you like this. However, I'm going to tell you to let him go. I've learned through my past relationships that you cannot make a person like you or love you. If it's not there, it's not there. You shouldn't have to beg him for his friendship. That's not a friend if he cuts you off like that. Maybe the new woman has told him that she doesn't want him talking to you. Maybe she's the jealous type. I would find another friend. I would move on and let him make the first move. Good Luck
2007-03-23 18:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. If he was a real friend you wouldn't have to "fight to get his friendship back." There's a lesson to be learned here. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Don't bare your soul to someone unless you won't be disappointed if something like this develops. You said he has ended your friendship. I understand you are hurting, but a loyal friend wouldn't just end a friendship. Do you have a hobby? Do you like to read? Do something that you enjoy and that makes you feel good about yourself.
2007-03-23 18:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you like him more than just a friend- what made him stop talking to you though? Either way, I think you should tell him how you feel, you never know what effect that could have. And it's a lose-lose situation: it's either you guys don't talk ever again.. or you tell him and you STILL don't talk.. Do you think telling him would be a good idea? Would it bother you to hold that in?
2007-03-23 18:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by n1ke_g1rl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋