should i break up with him?

Question

my boyfriend and i have been fighting alot recently. we both know its a commuication problem because we are both to stubborn. weve talked about breaking up but everytime we do i get so upset because i dont know what i would do without him. any ideas about how to communicate better

weve been together for a year and a half. its a long distance relationship im in texas and hes in illinois

Answer 1

Unless you both are willing to get counseling or invite God into your life, or both, it will never get better and you may as wll break up now. That's just keeping it real. Peace and God bless.

Answer 2

A lot of it has to do with what you are trying to communicate. One of the major problems in communicating is that either one of you or both are not listening to what is being said or not hearing it. Ask for clarification if you need it or mirror the question or statement. To mirror is to repeat the statement or question as you understand it to mean or how you heard it.

Stubbornness is a fault. Tenacity is a virtue. If you two truly care about each other, you will listen to what each other has so say and not go ballistic with your response. Think through your questions, your answers and your comments.

Feelings are often the hardest thing to communicate. That is become they tend to be fluid and not hard. Aside from that, feelings can be soothing and they be hurtful. Tread lightly, but be of good hearts.

Answer 3

How long have you guys been together? After about 6 or 7 months.. relationships tend to decline but it's not a totally bad thing because you can't have a perfect relationship forever. For me- I always like talking to the person face to face when there is a problem but if you guys can't see each other too often, at least be the bigger person and let him talk when he needs to and ask him to do the same for you- respect each other's opinions and actually listen to them, don't blow them off

Answer 4

Do you not know what do without him because you care so deeply for him? Or just because this is "comfortable" relationship? Sometimes people just need to distance themselves from each other for a while to get a perspective. If you guys spend a lot of time together, try hanging out with only your friends and let him go out with his.

Answer 5

Let me ask you, "Are you happy right now?" If yes, then please disregard. If no, then do you honestly believe that things will get better. If all you do is fight, then there's no point in continuing. There are other people in this world. You're just afraid of change and of losing love for the rest of your life. I assure you, change is good and you will find love again. Leave him and search for love. I have faith in you.

Answer 6

Well to tell you the truth I wouldn't break up if you really love him. Try just going to the movies or something spend sometime together!Well good luck, I hope you take my advice!

Answer 7

You need to take the time. Also if you see it leading to a fight, as hard as it is, be the one to back down. I know its hard Im the same way. Also if you do break up, if its ment to be then youll get back together!!!

Answer 8

meeting in the middle and for two over communicators aka stubborn people it will take resolve on both your parts to want to do this and committ yourself to trying...if that happens you have a new beginning

Answer 9

Hey,,, its ok,,, if you need someone to talk to just write me. I communicate well and if it ever comes to a fight, the bedroom is a great ring.... i'd even let you win.

Answer 10

Be opened Minded