How do I know if I want kids?

Question

I'm only 21 but I've been asked to make that descision. How do I know?

Answer 1

look deep deep down in ur heart!

Answer 2

Hmmm...your question is pretty open since we don't know anything about you. Are you in college? Working in a factory? Married? Gay? I'm guessing a few things--you're in a serious relationship with a person that wants kids and having kids is important to them. They posed the question to you cause if you DON'T want kids, then they'll have to rethink their thoughts on having kids.
Having said that, at 21 I didn't know if I wanted kids either. I never babysitted for anyone, was an only child, was a loner, and all that stuff. I knew that I didn't like other people's kids! I think you'd want to keep an open mind. I mean, never say never, right? Cause you are asking IF you want kids, and that's a different question then, "Should I have kids NOW?"
I can tell you this from personal experience. I have a 15 month old, and I simply can't imagine my life without him. Course, I'm a bit older and married. BUT, I didn't know if I wanted kids. I knew that I didn't NOT want kids. It just took me some time to gain confidence and wisdom, and to get used to the idea. I mean you're just out of the hopper from being able to drink. So, you're just starting to think about life after HS, and about marriage and kids. Think about this...imagine yourself not being able to have kids at all ever. How would you feel? Would you care? Would you be sad? Devastated? I'd really look hard at that answer and try to keep an open mind. You might be in a different place as a person in 4 yrs. But, you should always be true to your heart. Don't be pressured. It's the BIGGEST decision you'll ever half to make, if you can make it (sometimes it's made for you if you come up pregnant!) :) Good luck and take care.

Answer 3

Do you like kids,toys? go to kid places and she how you feel. Also at 21 making that descision is unfair and may not be possible.

Answer 4

Think very hard on this one. My kids are my world and I would trade my life for no other!! But with that said you need to realize that kids take alot of work and time not a decision to be made lightly. I just say this because my children were both planned but somedays it is so hard...especially having a child with special needs. Just make sure you are ready when you do make the decision...it affects more lives than yours..

Answer 5

Who would ask you that at 21? You have a lot of time and when you find that special someone you'll feel the family. If is meant to be it will happen whether you try or not.
If you have to answer tell whoever that you are still young and add your true feelings of children.Remember Babies change your life. I have 4 (Love them and their Dad) and never could have told someone I'd have any at 21.

Answer 6

Honey, you are still young. Live your life, do what you want. You do not have to make this decision now. When you are ready, you will know. Do NOT let anyone force this on you. You will make a better and more secure parent when you are ready, not when others are ready. I would love to have grandchildren, but my kids are to young, I know this and so do they! Enjoy your freedom while you have it because when you start having kids, you will lose your freedom for at least 18 years!

Answer 7

my suggestion would be to babysit ... babies, bad temper children or even find somewhere where you work with children with conditions (autism, down syndrome, wheelchair bound children) ... because if you have a child, chances are unless they are perfect, you will deal with alot of tantrums and if for some unfortunate event you end up having a child with a condition, you will have experience with that ... after a month of babysitting, you'll find out if you want kids or not.
If you want kids but not night priorities, I would suggest you seek employment in childcare or something like that.
Kylie

Answer 8

ok first think about are you ready to be a mom?? 2 do have a man to help with the baby?? i am 26 years old i have 2 boys 6 and 4 in june. i am on my 3rd baby i am 51/2 monthes with a baby girl sam , i am with the father of this baby but its hard having a baby its a lot of work sleepless nights and alot of money. dont get me wrong i love my babies but i was ready to become a mom ,when your ready you will know good luck!!!!

Answer 9

Generanally you never know if it's the best or worst time to go ahead with having a kid. You just have to hope it's the best time but most people go ahead with it when their life is stable and they aren't going through finicial crisis. But you must be definate about it because once you're pregnant there's no going back.

Answer 10

if i was that young as you again i would say no i want to live a live first and have kids with 30 ish I'm a mother as i was 17 if i could chose than i would have waited til i be 30 to have my child . don't be in a hurry to have kids you later in live will regret that you don't could do what you wanted to do when you are still young . travel and enjoy live as long as you can and finish collage-and accomplice all you want first, than you have time to think about kids .be smart

Answer 11

Do you like kids. Do you like holding babies. do you often look at couples with children. What is in your heart? If someone asked you to make a desicion, and you are not sure. Then that is your answer. There are more then just Yes and no's to this answer. And that is that!!!