I want to ask my best friend to be my maid of honor, but there's just one catch -- my best friend is a guy. Can I have a male maid of honor?
With the exception of one girlfriend, all of my close friends are guys. What am I supposed to do about the bridal shower, the bachelorette party and, most importantly, the wedding party? Also, my fiance and I share many of the same friends, with only a few exceptions.
2007-03-23 17:41:37 · 22 answers · asked by Finally his wife! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i wont call him my maid of honor...and the guy has a best man not the girl....
2007-03-23 17:49:45 · update #1
This has nothing to do with me being insecure or afriad of competion from a female maid of honor. I dont have any close girl friends. and i am the only girl out of 3 boys. MY best friend is a guy. I am only asking if its ok to have him as one of my honor attendents... So please keep your rude comments to yourself. .... Oh and if i choose to have male friends i will.... My fiance has know all my guys are friends since we got together 4 years ago. and he doesnt have a problem with it...so just keep ur comments about my choice of friends to yourself. SERIOUS ADVICE ONLY PLEASE!!!!!
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2007-03-24 11:54:59 · update #2
Ashley if your best friend is a guy and he is the person you want to be the witness to one of your most important days in your life then do it!!!! Who cares what others think. Call him your Gentlemen of Honor. So many pick people to be their best man or maid of honor and just a few years or less later don't even see them or talk with them anymore. I plan for my maid of honor to be at my 50th wedding anniversery because we are still friends 14 years later and always will be. Maybe instead of having him in a tux or a suit he could be in a pair of black slacks and a nice shirt to match your wedding colors.
2007-03-24 00:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I see no reason that your male friend can't be your maid of honor. Now days things are done different anyway. It should be the way that you want it. It is your Wedding anyway. How does your fiance feel about this? If he is o.k. with it then there shouldn't be a problem.
If you work then have the girls at work throw you a bachelorette party, or have your girlfriend throw you one. You may know more girls than you think you do. They don't have to be close friends, just people you know.LOL Or you could have a combined shower and if strippers are supposed to be there then you can have a male stripper and he can have a female stripper in different rooms.LOL Hope this helps. Or maybe have parties on different days.
2007-03-23 17:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by Deborah N 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You can choose whom ever you want to stand with you..
Call him the Best Man of Honor..
As for the bridal shower, bachlorette party etc.. Consider having an all inclusive Engagement Shower Party... Both you and your husband invite friends and have a party... As your Best Man of Honor and the Best Man to help plan and pull off the party..
Several Years ago I was the Best Maid of Honor at the commitment ceremony of my two dear friends Mike and Paul.. I shared the honor with the Best Man of Honor (Mike's father) ... The joy wasn't in the title but in being asked to share such a wonderful day with such wonderful friends.. I would have gladly done it had the title been Hey You...
2007-03-23 18:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Couples are often having their honor attendants be the opposite sex. That is why the term "honor attendant" is used, because it is gender neutral. There are a few things to consider though... with your honor attendant being the opposite sex, you will need other attendants to help you with things the honor attendant normally would (such as getting dressed, etc). Your fiance would probably not appreciate another man seeing you in your undergarments.
As for bachelorette party and/or bridal shower... most couples do one or the other not both, and you can do a couples shower to incorporate your honor attendant without making them feel they need to be "girly".... the added benefit is that you get to include your fiance in something he might otherwise have been left out of.
As for the wedding party (I assume you are worried about who should walk with whom during the procession and recession?) have the groomsmen at the front with the groom to begin with then at the end when walking out, have the attendants alternate (bride's attendant, grooms attendant, etc etc) but walk singularly. As for dressing, he would wear the same outfit that any of the groomsmen would wear or alternate the vest color (for example if your colors are burgundy and gold, your groomsmen are all wearing gold vests have your honor attendant wear the burgundy vest)
If you need further assistance feel free to email me.
2007-03-23 17:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I recently went to a wedding where the best man was female. She wore a long black dress with sort of a tux design to the top. No one seemed to mind.
I'm not sure how you would coordinate a guy to look like a maid of honor though. If that's what you'd want to do.
good luck
2007-03-23 17:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by J M 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It has occurred and whether or not you could have a man to rise up with you because the MOH or if the Groom has a feminine nice guy...They are each referred to as "Honor attendants". You would possibly wish to have the groom get a nice feminine buddy or sister or might be a cuz. It might be awkward for the two men running down the isle in combination.
2016-09-05 13:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can definitely have a Man of Honor. I think it would be cool.
Bridal shower and bachelorette party do not worry about, it is for the bridesmaids or your mom or his mom to plan.
2007-03-24 06:24:32 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother was my maid of honor. We just had a tiny wedding with only close family there.
If you're having a bigger wedding, you may find yourself explaining the situation to a few of your guests.
2007-03-23 17:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your maid of honor should be your best friend. Male or female.
My wife's maid of honor was a guy. We got a couple of light hearted jokes out of it from some guests but no one seemed to be offended. And I have a fairly conservative family. Go for it!
2007-03-23 17:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 2000 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
No. The wedding party is for the couple, it's just that the men and women are separated. So if you want the guy to be in the wedding party, he would be a groomsman.
And just a bit of advice, you are going to have to knock off the guy friends once you are married.
2007-03-23 23:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋