Help my 3year old daughter will not potty train!!?

Question

She just turned 3 this month. We have tried the pull ups, letting her go with just panties and feeling wet, and watching Mommy and her friends fo. I have even resorted to bribery!!

It seems she doesnt mind feeling wet (unless her pull up leaks)

She is at day care and they have scheduled bathroom times, sometimes she will sit on the toilet for a few seconds but will get off quickly. Twice in the past couple months she actually peed on the toilet but we think it was just a coincidence, the timing was right, and she had to go anyway.

I have spent entire weekends just concentrating on her and her potty training and she just wont do it. Sometimes she will be eager to sit on the potty or toilet (we have tried both) but she has never actually peed in it,

Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Here it is- it has worked for my 2 kids,and others after I tell them........

1. get m and m's handy
2. get a small potty chair
3. get a couple books about potty
4. you need to be home for about 4-5 days straight
5. now you can start. let them run around bare-but
6. Set the timer for 1/2 hour. Tell him/her to sit on the potty for 5 min. (read them a book in the mean time if it's to long for them.) If they go, give lots and lots of praise!!! I mean go crazy!! Give them about 3 m and m's.
7. Set the timer for 1/2 hour
8. Avoid asking the question "you got to go potty?'
9. Timer goes off- ok! What does that mean junior? Time to go potty again he or she would say, or you say it if they don't
10. repeat process all day long. If they go # 2 in the potty, reward with a handful of m and m's. They are very colorful and kids love them!!

11. Praise praise praise. I do spank my kids for behavior problems such as lying, disobedience, and bad attitudes, but never for having an accident. If there is an accident, clean it up queitly, and don't say much at all. Remind them it's ok, but try to make it in the potty next time, or in your own words.

Good luck!!! Hope this helps you. My girl was potty-trained in two days with the method. Took my 2 1/2 year old son a week. Leave pull-ups on them at night just in case.
p.s. if this doen't work at all, try again in a few months.

Answer 2

At this point it sounds as if she is enjoying the control & your distress on some level. Also, 3 year-olds often get so involved in whatever activity they are doing, that even if they are potty trained, they'll either wait until the last minute or have an accident. If the day-care doesn't mind the pull-ups I'd say let it be for a few months. It will relieve your stress and take away one power struggle. When she's really ready, it will happen - I haven't seen any 10 year-olds still in pull-ups ;o). And if some one pulls the 'my child is better (or smarter or whatever) than yours' because they were potty trained at 14 months, smile sweetly & ignore them -they'll have some issue that doesn't go smoothly eventually, or else they are lying to you.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

She sounds like my son! He's 3 1/2 and has NO desire to use the potty, not when it's so easy for Mommy to just change him. My older son actually went to the first week of kindergarten in pull-ups, so I'm not surprised that my youngest isn't trained yet. However, I have read A LOT of ideas along the way, so here goes...(stop me if you've heard this one).

Keep a little potty in each room or floor of your house for accessibility. Let her sit on it while watching tv, reading, listening to music - totally relaxed and stress-free. It usually happens the first few times when they're distracted and not actually trying to go. Make sure her feet are properly supported - sometimes on the big potty, kids are too worried about falling to concentrate on the issue at hand, plus the support is necessary when doing number 2. Let her pick out her own potty/potty seat. Let her pick out special underwear she really would hate to mess up. Try her on the potty every hour, on the hour. Watch the Potty Time movie (really). Have her "train" a doll or bear by example. Make her clean up herself and any mess she makes when she wets in her underwear.

Make a game of it - they have pee targets for boys (or some people just use cheerios), who says that wouldn't work for girls? Sure, they're not aiming like the boys, but there's got to be a way to make the act of peeing more game-like for girls, with a little creativity. Does she like washing her hands? Maybe a special (scented or something) big-girl soap that she can only use after she's gone on the potty? Maybe she likes flushing? My older son got into waving bye-bye when we flushed, and he could only flush if he did something in the potty - just a general big fuss about the flushing part took some pressure off the "going" part. Maybe try running water while she's sitting on the potty, or playing a running water sounds cd, or even dipping her hands in warm water - might send her some subliminal messages? It doesn't matter why she goes the first few times on the potty, the more she does it (even by accident), the more likely she is to keep doing it.

I hate to say it, but I did eventually resort to pressure with my oldest (he was 4 1/2!). I made a big fuss when I changed him after an accident, saying that I was so disappointed because he was a big boy and I knew he could go on the potty and all of his friends went on the potty, and so on, kind of guilted him. I also made the act of changing him uncomfortable, using chilly wipes, using diapers that were a little tight, so that he could compare that feeling to staying in soft, warm, dry undies. Even the pull-ups are so absorbant, they aren't much less comfortable than a wet diaper, which as we all know "whisk all the wetness away and lock it in an absorbant core..." Why would a kid see the need to switch from something so comfortable? The "gimmicky" pull-ups never helped, either. (My son actually ENJOYS the ones that turn cool.)So I hate to say it, but yes, you probably will need to say good bye to diapers and pull-ups, at least during the day. It's messy, so stock up on the Nature's Miracle (the enzymes eat away urine stains), underwear, and elastic-waist bottoms, and dive right in. Don't dwell too much on the accidents after the fact, praise all efforts and successes wildly, and don't continue with the bribery, in my opinion. That can lead to trouble. What she really wants is your love and acceptance, anyway. Also, make sure her underwear is comfy - sometimes the elastic pinches or the tag itches - some little thing that we wouldn't think of can totally turn them off of wearing underwear, trust me, that was a huge part of the problem with my oldest. He didn't like his underwear, so we went back to our old standby the pull-up, and he figured since he was wearing it... Try looking for undies where the elastic is covered in fabric (like Hanna Andersson).

I wish I could be of more help - a magic pill or something - but then I wouldn't be in the same boat. Good luck! And yes, don't worry, she will eventually do it on her own if just left to her own devices.

Answer 5

maybe you could give her like a sticker chart. like every time she goes to the potty and not in her panties she get a sticker, and when she gets enough (lets say 10) then she gets a prize. for example: making cookies with you, going to the park, having mommy daughter time etc. something where you get to spend time with her so she can become potty trained, bond more with you, and learning counting (from the stickers). she will also feel proud of herself! its a win-win situation!!!
good luck!!!

Answer 6

My boy is really stubborn but I was able to potty train him in less than 7 days. I used this method I found online http://pottytraining.toptips.org

Answer 7

Ok-I know you're going to say shut-up, but RELAX, don't push her-she will go when she wants to go-if you're in a hurry-try a chart with stickers & if she goes one of the days-make a big deal of it-but seriously-CHILL, it will happen:)

Answer 8

Keep bribing her,then gradually she will be potty trained,and then you will be problem free!

Answer 9

try the stick method if she pees smack her ar$e as now its becoming unhealthy for her and you to have to take p1ss wet and **** nappies off a 3 year olds bum.