2007-03-23 17:35:18 · 21 answers · asked by im_chat2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whats good for the goose is good for the gander
2007-03-23 17:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are setting yourself up for heartbreak. If your ex really wanted to get back with you, then she would be on the same page as you. You are just spinning your wheels over nothing. My advice to you would be to move on. You can't waste time on someone that is not willng to make the same relationship commitments as you are. Analyze this rationally, here are some question you should really ask yourself.
1. Why did we break up in the first place?
2. Were either of you unhappy in the relationship?
3. What am I/she expecting to have changed in the relationship?
4. Is she willing to work as hard as I am to make it work?
5. Is this a type of cycle with us?
6. Am I getting back with my ex because I am too scared to try a new relationship?
These are some very important this that you need to ask yourself. You have to be truthful and realistic. Dependency isn't love, it's safety.
2007-03-23 17:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by allkoei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient, if you love her just give her whatever time and space she may need. Getting back into a relationship with an ex takes time and alot of soul searching just to make sure you're making the right decision.
2007-03-23 17:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by Monica M & M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you already lost her once so no matter what you do it cant get any worse right?
start by fealin better about yourself - diet, exercise, are a good start.
ignore her, don't call her- don't check in - this is important!!!!
give her the time and space
tell her how you feel and be done with it and get on with your new life.....trust me, there is life after a split..........
Once she sees the new you, she'll come back...if not, then the new you needs to find someone that does want you......
2007-03-23 17:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Splinter Cell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and she really want to get back together just give her the time that she needs. But if it were me I would do some thinking on your part, remeber you all broke up before. Do you think that you all will make it this time?
2007-03-23 17:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my story goes like this, me and my wife were on for 8 years then we split up for a year, i got into other relationships and so did she. then we just got back without even trying it just happened. weve been married for 11 yrs and have 2 sons. what happens happens, don't force the issue.
2007-03-23 17:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by ringo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your the sucker who's been put on the back burner while she gone fishing. Love doesn't linger. If she truely loves you then what IS she waiting for if your suppose to be IT?
2007-03-23 17:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by K G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not ready to come back to you, then don't pressure her. She may need more time to mature or more time to change herself. Have you made any changes with yourself?
2007-03-23 17:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is talk to her and tell her your feelings everything make it clear like water, then ask her to be more open with you. Just make sure she wants the same thing you want and if she wants time try to be understanding and be there for her.
2007-03-23 17:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by be55tlloka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an x is an x for a reason don't do it if your unsure of what to do now it doesn't seem like a good idea
2007-03-23 17:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her out for lunch, or a party and just talk alot do alot of things together, she will get to know you better, and she will find out that you arent an annoying creep or whatever she thinks of you!
2007-03-23 17:40:38 · answer #11 · answered by Lousianna K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋